Instructions to a female regarding new dresses 

A female spiritual aspirant wrote, ‘Respected sir! I have a desire to wear good, crisp and clean clothes. Allah has bestowed the capacity to do so. Moreover my intention is make my husband happy and my husband also wants this. 

The problem is that whenever I see someone wearing good clothes I deeply desire to buy the same outfit. Most of the time I remain silent, however, occasionally I make a request (to my husband) and eventually get it. 

Sir, please, let me know if this is a spiritual ailment or not. And if it is, then please, prescribe a treatment for it. ‘

Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi (Allah have mercy on him) replied,

‘There are levels of adornment.  The extremes are disliked and the moderate level is recommendable. 

The way of moderation in this matter is not to make similar clothes at that time. If with passage of time this desire slips away then it is well and good. If not, then when there is a need to make new dress get it. If it is unavailable (in the market now) then forget about it. However, if you feel (that by delaying the purchase) you will remain preoccupied by thinking about it then buy it but do not get it stitched. Save it till there is a need for a new dress. This will fulfill your desire without compromising the (household) finances. 

If your husband gives you pocket money in addition to the essential household running costs then add to the above regimen that you buy this dress from your own (pocket) money. This will keep the lowerself (nafs) within limits.’

Tarbiyet us Salik, volume 3, page 136

Wird: تارک الورد ملعون 

A spiritual seeker wrote, I read in many books the saying تارک الورد ملعون (one who abandons his daily wird is cursed).  What exactly does it mean?

Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi (Allah have mercy on him) replied, 

‘First of all sayings like this are not an evidence without an explicit reference. 

Even if it is considered to be a testament then ‘cursed’ (here) means deprivation from the special blessings that is associated with (the recitation of) this wird

In addition the wisdom of wording it so (dramatic) is to state the repugnance of abandoning the daily routine wird without a genuine excuse. This practice (of abandonment of established worship) being abominable is mentioned in sahih Prophetic saying

یا عبداللہ لا تکن مثل فلان کان یصلی بالیل ثم ترکہ

O Abdullah! Do not be like XYZ who use to pray at night and then abandoned it. ‘

Tarbiyet us Salik, volume3, page 134

Anger: How to control it?

  1. ‘To use will power and determination to stop (display of anger)
  2. If one succumbs (and displays anger) then to repent and
  3.  Ask forgives (from the victim)
  4. To ponder before speaking on the evil and good results it will lead to
  5. To intentionally keep one’s tone mellow (at the time of feeling angry)
  6. To move away from the individual on whom one is feeling angry
  7. To supplicate for Allah’s protection
  8. To recall one’s own sinful actions (and feel ashamed for censuring another for some minor faults)
  9. To recall the possibility of wrath of Allah (on displaying anger) and His love of forgiving
  10. To recall that I am more disobedient of Allah and if similar display of anger is done with me what will I do.
  11. To recall that if I forgive than I will be also forgiven (by Allah)
  12. Drink water
  13. Make wudhu
  14. To become busy in some other activity
  15. To remember that even the display of anger to correct someone else is detrimental for a  novice (spiritual seeker)’

Tarbiyet us Salik, volume 2, page133

Sunna: Leaving it leads to gaflah 

Shaykh Ibn ‘Ata Allah al Iskandari (Allah have mercy on him) said,

Negligence (gaflah) does not come upon you except as a consequence of your negligence in emulating the Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him peace). 

Moreover (remember) you will never attain honor in Allah’s sight except by emulating him (Allah bless him and grant him peace). 

Taj al ‘Arus p 4

Sama’ a

Data Ganj Baksh Ali Hujwari writes about Khawaja Abu Ahmed Al Muzafer   (Allah have mercy on them) ,

‘On a very hot summer day I visited him in a unsettled state. He inquired, What do you desire? I replied, Sama’a (audition). He immediately called for the cantors (qawwal).

During the sama’a session I remained extremely agitated.  Eventually when I calmed down he inquired, How much did you enjoy this?  I replied, O Sheikh! Very much indeed. 

The Shaikh continued, A day will come when the sound of the sama’a and the cry of a crow will become same for you. The influence of sama’a is prior to witnessing the Reality (mushahida).  After mushahida the desire for sama’a will vanishes.

Kasheful mahjoob, p 100

Know your worth!

Shaikh Mirza Mazhar Jan-e-Janaa shaheed (Allah have mercy on him) said,

‘An individual must be aware of his own real worth. This is necessary so that he is not elated by someone’s praise or disappointed by another’s criticism. 

The cause of an individual’s resentment and displeasure is most of the time being unaware of his own real worth and status. ‘

Meerza Mazhar Jan-e-Janaa aur unka Urdu kalam, p 163

Istekhara 

Sunni-tarash Shaikh Mirza Mazhar Jan-e-Jaana (Allah have mercy on him) said,

‘It is essential for a salik to do istekhara prior to every important endeavor. If there is no time to pray two rakaat salah then just make the (sunna) supplication. The outcome will be the same.’

Ma’mulaat e Mazhariya p 292

Repentance: It is now!

A letter and it’s reply,

بِسْــــــــــــــــــمِ اﷲِالرَّحْمَنِ اارَّحِيم

السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ

Dear Sheikh,

The Incident involving crash of PIA including have left a grief and sorrow. 

I am not aware, how should I express my feelings but especially these death seems to be a shock and horror for me.

Moreover after the confirmation death news of brother Junaid Jamshed (Allah have mercy on him), it seemed to me an unbelievable fact.

His voice expressed the my emotions. 

The feelings of emotions are getting overwhelmed to me. 

Please advise and make dua for me.

Requesting dua’s for the people in the Incident involving crash of PIA.

Reply

Bismillah 

As salaamu alaykum wrwb 

JazakAllah 

Please remind yourself that this can happen to me also. That is, sudden death. Then analyze if I’m prepared for it or not?

If yes. Then accept congratulations. 

If not. Then ask yourself why and for what I’m waiting? 

Start now. 

Set up a well planned, organized and practical daily schedule in consultation with a spiritual mentor. 

May Allah have mercy on the departed ones and all of us. Ameen!

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These moments of genuine sadness are very precious. One should utilize them by turning sincerely to Allah and making heartfelt supplications especially,for his/her own spiritual betterment.  

Not utilizing this saddens for turning to Allah usually results in depression and despair. May Allah save us all from these.  Ameen!

Moreover this is the message of brother Junaid Jamshed’s life. Repent now!

Mercy of Allah: Sinner’s resort

Shah Wasiullah Allahabadi (Allah have mercy on him) said,

‘The sinners are to an extent cognizant of the mercy of Allah. Whereas the pious worshippers do not even get a random thought of Allah’s mercy. They assume and focus that they will enter the Paradise by their own efforts. 

The poor sinner thinks what (efforts) do I have? I rely solely on the Mercy and the beneficence of Allah. And this (in realty) facilitates his dealing (with Allah). 

And the issue with the (self sufficient) pious becomes difficult.

Respected Haji (Imdadullah mohajir Makki, Allah have mercy on him) said,

ہے عبادت کا سہارا عابدوں کے واسطے

اور عصائے آہ مجھ بے دست و پا کے واسطے’

Majales Muleh al Ummat, volume 6, page 159