Category Archives: B. Praise worthy morals

The good moral characteristics that are to be developed within one’s self

Islah: How to begin?

 

A seeker wrote,

I am not even aware of the method of seeking islah effectively. 

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usmani (Allah protect him) replied, 

‘Read about the praise-worthy (fadhail) and blame-worthy (razail) morals from Maasir al Hakim al Ummat or Tabligh-e-Deen (of Imam Ghazali, Allah have mercy on him).  Then do your own analysis (are they present or lacking in my character). Wherever you have suspicion ask about it. This is the effective way of seeking islah.’

Islahi khatoot 

Blame: Handling it correctly

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Umm ad-Darda’ (Allah be pleased with her) reported that a man came to her and said,

“A man has said bad things about you in the presence of ‘Abdu’l-Malik.’ She said, “If we are suspected of something which we did not do, then how often have we been praised for something we did not have!”

Explanation: Hazrat Umm ad-Darda’ (Allah be pleased with her) has mentioned something very useful. That is, if someone says bad things about us and finds faults in us then we should tell our Nafs that if he has said something wrong about me then there are other things as well which are said wrong about me. That is, people have praised me for some knowledge or good deed or act of worship, and have said good things about me when in reality I do not possess many of those good things. If I can tolerate those praises which are based on incorrect assumptions then I should also tolerate the wrong things said about me which are based on incorrect assumptions. It is easy to explain to Nafs: Look! The one who has praised you, he has also lied. So you should tolerate this lie as well.

Source: Hadith # 420, Al-Adab Al-Mufrad by Imam Bukhari (rahimahullah) with Urdu translation and explanation by Maulana Muhammad Khalid Sahab Khangarhi

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Spiritual benefit from pious: How?

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‘What is the method of benefiting spiritually from the pious?’

Shaikh Maulana Sayyid Abul Hassan Ali Nadwi (Allah have mercy on him) replied summarizing the gist of the experience of his whole life,

‘It is with respect, silence, patience, listening attentively, keeping the mind clear (especially from) thoughts of suspicion and objection, and not being critical.

One remains silent contemplating that Allah will make them say whatever is best (for me).’

Majalis e hasana, page

Cure for Praise of others

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A spiritual aspirant wrote:
When some one praises me in front, I have contradictory feelings in my heart about it. I like it and at the same time I stop those praising me to not praise me. Please guide me on how I should handle this correctly. Jazaak Allah

Sayyidi wa sanadi Hazrat Moulana Mohammad Taqi Usmani sahib (Allah SWT preserve him and allow us to benefit from him abundantly. Ameen) replied:
“Spontaneous natural happiness is not detrimental.
On these occasions contemplate that, all praise is due to Allah SWT, He made them see my good state. If they were to know of my reality they would have hated me.”

Meraj us Salikeen: Islahi Khutoot #10

Observations

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A seeker who is a medical student spent few days of his winter break with another senior seeker. After returning home he reported the following observations,

1. Time for going to mosque should be fixed and strictly followed. All preparations and wudhu should be done in advance.

2. Tongue should always be busy in remembrance (zikr) of Allah.

3. Studies have priority over all that is nafil e.g. reading religious books etc.

4. One should be good at whatever he does. Principles should be followed and one should be organized.

5. What we have to take from the Akabir and Mashaeikh is their ‘Deeni Mizaaj‘.

6. Reading the biographies of Akabir is very beneficial in getting this mizzaj e.g. Ashraf us Sawaneh

7. One should be a ‘Banda‘ (slave) of Allah SWT,. Be thankful to Allah on whatever one achieves and does not expect perfection.

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May Allah make it beneficial for all of us. Amin!

Treatment for talking too much

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A spiritual aspirant wrote:
I have this problem that I talk too much. Useless discussion with friends / family and talking without thinking and realizing its effects and I am not able to control myself. Please guide me on how to control myself in this regard? Jazaak Allah

Sayyidi wa sanadi Hazrat Moulana Mohammad Taqi Usmani sahib (Allah SWT preserve him and allow us to benefit from him abundantly. Ameen) replied:
“This thing is very harmful on this tareeq (path of self reformation). Stop yourself forcefully from talking more and only talk when required. Avoid useless discussions completely.”

Meraj us Salikeen: Islahi Khutoot #12

Condolence: Prophet’s letter (Allah’s blessings & peace be upon him)

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“In the name of Allah, Most Kind, Most Merciful.

From Muhammad, Allah’s Messenger to Mu’az- Ibn-Jabal.

May the peace of Allah be on you.
l praise Allah before you,the One besides whom there is none worthy of worship.

After praising and glorifying Allah, (I say the following.) May Allah give you great reward and may He guide you to exercise patient endurance. And may He (also) guide us and you to be grateful to Him.

Surely, our souls, wealth and families are wonderful gifts from Allah. He has loaned them to us so that we may take benefit from them for a set period; and he takes them away after completion of that period.

Thus, gratitude becomes binding on us when He gives, and patience becomes obligatory when He takes away.

Your son was also from among the wonderful gifts (of Allah) and a loan (from Him). Allah enabled you to enjoy him in a way that was both enviable (to others) and pleasing (to you); and now, in return for great reward, mercy and forgiveness He has taken him away from you. Provided that you exercise patience. So do exercise patience and do not let your bewailing and complaining destroy your reward, for you will be sorry (if this happens).

Know that bewailing and complaining neither brings back anything nor does it repel grief and sorrow.

And whatever is to happen is set to happen. And it has occurred.

Peace be upon you.’

Tirmidhi, Quoted from Uswa-e-Rasool-e Akram sallalaho alehey wa sallaho wasalam, page 602

Islah of spouse

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Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (Allah have mercy on him) said,

‘I received a letter from a female. She has has written few complaints of her husband. She further wrote that if I forbid him from indulgence in wrongful acts he rebukes me excessively. She requested an amulet (ta’weez) or a recitation (wazifa) for his reform (islah).

I wrote to her in reply that if there is no fear of retaliation (to your advice) then you can do so with extreme politeness and flattery. Otherwise, you are excused. Do not say anything (to him in this regards).

(Hakim al Umma then addressed the seekers beside him) Is islah possible by amulets (ta’weez) or recitations (wazifa)?

It is difficult to reform an individual who himself does not want to improve.’

Ifadet al Yoomia, volume 4, page 249-50

Maintain severe level alert against nafs

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Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi (Allah have mercy on him) said,

‘Always remember this.

Do not provide an opportunity or the means to the lower self (nafs) to misbehave.

This is extremely important information that is being provided.
Nafs is the devil that destroyed the asceticism (zuhd), God-conscientiousness (taqwa) and sanctity of highly pious individuals in few moments.

Never consider it to be dead.

Sometimes due to unavailability of means (to disobey) it acts subdued. However, it is waiting for the opportunity and means (lurching to strike). ‘

Al Ifadet al Yoomia, volume 4, page 23

Brotherly advice

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Commenting on the Prophetic saying narrated in Sahih Bukhari (#104) sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve him) said,

‘Sayedina Abu Shuraih (Allah be pleased with him) taught us a etiquette. That is, irrespective of how evil an individual is and how heinous actions he is committing even then advising or inviting him (to the truth) should be in a manner that does not dishearten him. Moreover, it should take into account his (social) status.’

Inamul Bari, volume 2, page 149

The most superior karamet

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It was reported that an individual walks on (flowing) water.

Shaikh Abu Mohammad Murtaish (Allah have mercy on him) replied,

‘I consider that the person who has been blessed by Allah to be steadfast against his (sinful) desires is most upright and superior to the individual who walks on water and flies in the air.

And (remember) action against one’s desire is only by asceticism (zuhud) and diverting one’s attention away from all (worldly) things.’

Eqaz al Himam, volume 1, page 369

Priorities in islah

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Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi ( Allah have mercy on him) said,

‘The pious (masters) do not focus excessively on the exoteric actions (dhahiri a’mal). This is because they can be rectified in a moment merely by changing one’s determination. That is, an individual who does not pray can (make a firm determination) in a moment and start praying, one who shaves his beard can (make a firm determination) in a moment and let it grow. Similarly, in a moment an alcoholic can repent from drinking and a transgressor (fasiq fajir) becomes God-fearing.

The important thing that the pious focus on is the rectification of the moral characteristics (ikhlaq e batinah), like arrogance (kibr) etc.. The rectification of these is very difficult.’

Husn al-Aziz, Malfuzat e Hakim al Umma ra, volume 17, page 284

Advice: sufis do not quarrel

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What did the speaker of beautiful words, the splendid face Bhalul ( majzoob, Allah have mercy on him) say,
When he passed by a quarreling Sufi

If this claimant (lover of Allah) had truly recognized the Friend (Allah), he would not have been involved in argument with the enemy (wasting time in something other-than his love).

Shaikhul mashaikh Haji Imdadullah mohajir Makki (Allah have mercy on him) wrote these verses at the very end of his treatise Faisala e haft masala.

Breaking the chains of desire

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Shaikh Ahmed bin Mohammed ‘Aijiba (Allah have mercy on him) said,

‘The only means of breaking the chains of desires of the lower self (nafs) are,
1. Overwhelming yearning (shauq) (for Allah’s pleasure)
2. Fear that makes one flee (from Allah’s displeasure)
3. Bestowal of Allah’s bounty either via means of a Perfect Shaikh, who possess alchemy potion for bringing this change or without any means,
(He chooses for His grace whom He wills. ) Allah is the Lord of great bounty. (Al-i’Emran : 74)’

Eqaz al Himam page 359