Category Archives: N. Advice

Suspicion: The biggest lie!

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Our master Abu Hurayra (Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (Allah’s blessings and peace be upon him), said,

“Beware of (bad)opinion.

(Bad)opinion is the most lying form of speech.

Do not deceive one another
nor envy one another
nor hate one another
nor compete with one another excessively (for worldly gains)
nor shun (avoid, ignore) one another.

Rather be the slaves of Allah as brothers.”

The things mentioned in this Hadith are those which tarnish relationships by creating hatred and enmity in the hearts.

The Prophet (Allah’s blessings and peace be upon him) first mentioned (the disease of) having (baseless) bad opinion about others. This is a kind of false delusion. The situation of one who is afflicted with this disease is such that if he has the slightest disagreement with someone, he considers all of their actions to be based on evil intentions. Based on this baseless bad opinion about them, he additionally associates other non-existing bad things to them. The natural reaction to this is that his behaviour towards them is also affected by this. Thereafter there is some reaction from others as well. Hearts break apart due to this, and relationships become stained permanently.

The Prophet (Allah’s blessings and peace be upon him) has called bad-gumani (having bad opinion about others) as the most untrue speech. Apparently it means that lying by tongue is known to everyone as a big sin, but people don’t normally consider having (baseless) bad opinion about others as being a grave sin. Rasulullah (sallalahu ‘alaihi wasallam) has informed us that having (baseless) bad opinion about others is the biggest lie, and this sin of the heart is not less grave than the sin of lying by tongue.
Just like the evilness of having (baseless) bad opinion about others has been mentioned in this Hadith, similarly having good opinion of others has been called the best form of worship in another Hadith. It is stated that “Having good opinion of others is a part of good worship).

After bad-gumani (having (baseless) bad opinion about others), among the other things Rasulullah (sallalahu ‘alaihi wasallam) forbade us is not to deceive each other, and if we see someone in a good state we should not wish bad for him. And we should not shun (avoid, ignore) each other. The case with all these is that these things sow the seed of hatred and enmity in hearts. And the love, sympathy, brotherhood and unity that is expected and desired from our Iman-based relationship with other Muslims becomes impossible.

In the end the Hadith says: “Rather be the slaves of Allah as brothers”. There is an indication in these words that only when you keep your hearts clean from the above-mentioned evil qualities can you truly live as brothers.

Source: Baab Al-Shahnaa’, Hadith Number 410, Adab Al-Mufrad of Imam Bukhari (r.a.) with Urdu Translation and Explanation of Maulana Muhammad Khalid Khan Garhi (student of Maulana Ashiq Ilahi Muhajir Madani Rahimahullah)

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Spiritual benefit from pious: How?

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‘What is the method of benefiting spiritually from the pious?’

Shaikh Maulana Sayyid Abul Hassan Ali Nadwi (Allah have mercy on him) replied summarizing the gist of the experience of his whole life,

‘It is with respect, silence, patience, listening attentively, keeping the mind clear (especially from) thoughts of suspicion and objection, and not being critical.

One remains silent contemplating that Allah will make them say whatever is best (for me).’

Majalis e hasana, page

Cure for Praise of others

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A spiritual aspirant wrote:
When some one praises me in front, I have contradictory feelings in my heart about it. I like it and at the same time I stop those praising me to not praise me. Please guide me on how I should handle this correctly. Jazaak Allah

Sayyidi wa sanadi Hazrat Moulana Mohammad Taqi Usmani sahib (Allah SWT preserve him and allow us to benefit from him abundantly. Ameen) replied:
“Spontaneous natural happiness is not detrimental.
On these occasions contemplate that, all praise is due to Allah SWT, He made them see my good state. If they were to know of my reality they would have hated me.”

Meraj us Salikeen: Islahi Khutoot #10

Observations

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A seeker who is a medical student spent few days of his winter break with another senior seeker. After returning home he reported the following observations,

1. Time for going to mosque should be fixed and strictly followed. All preparations and wudhu should be done in advance.

2. Tongue should always be busy in remembrance (zikr) of Allah.

3. Studies have priority over all that is nafil e.g. reading religious books etc.

4. One should be good at whatever he does. Principles should be followed and one should be organized.

5. What we have to take from the Akabir and Mashaeikh is their ‘Deeni Mizaaj‘.

6. Reading the biographies of Akabir is very beneficial in getting this mizzaj e.g. Ashraf us Sawaneh

7. One should be a ‘Banda‘ (slave) of Allah SWT,. Be thankful to Allah on whatever one achieves and does not expect perfection.

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May Allah make it beneficial for all of us. Amin!

Treatment for talking too much

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A spiritual aspirant wrote:
I have this problem that I talk too much. Useless discussion with friends / family and talking without thinking and realizing its effects and I am not able to control myself. Please guide me on how to control myself in this regard? Jazaak Allah

Sayyidi wa sanadi Hazrat Moulana Mohammad Taqi Usmani sahib (Allah SWT preserve him and allow us to benefit from him abundantly. Ameen) replied:
“This thing is very harmful on this tareeq (path of self reformation). Stop yourself forcefully from talking more and only talk when required. Avoid useless discussions completely.”

Meraj us Salikeen: Islahi Khutoot #12

Condolence: Prophet’s letter (Allah’s blessings & peace be upon him)

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“In the name of Allah, Most Kind, Most Merciful.

From Muhammad, Allah’s Messenger to Mu’az- Ibn-Jabal.

May the peace of Allah be on you.
l praise Allah before you,the One besides whom there is none worthy of worship.

After praising and glorifying Allah, (I say the following.) May Allah give you great reward and may He guide you to exercise patient endurance. And may He (also) guide us and you to be grateful to Him.

Surely, our souls, wealth and families are wonderful gifts from Allah. He has loaned them to us so that we may take benefit from them for a set period; and he takes them away after completion of that period.

Thus, gratitude becomes binding on us when He gives, and patience becomes obligatory when He takes away.

Your son was also from among the wonderful gifts (of Allah) and a loan (from Him). Allah enabled you to enjoy him in a way that was both enviable (to others) and pleasing (to you); and now, in return for great reward, mercy and forgiveness He has taken him away from you. Provided that you exercise patience. So do exercise patience and do not let your bewailing and complaining destroy your reward, for you will be sorry (if this happens).

Know that bewailing and complaining neither brings back anything nor does it repel grief and sorrow.

And whatever is to happen is set to happen. And it has occurred.

Peace be upon you.’

Tirmidhi, Quoted from Uswa-e-Rasool-e Akram sallalaho alehey wa sallaho wasalam, page 602

Keeping track of time & company

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Khawaja Mohammed Ma’soom Sirhindi (Allah have mercy on him) instructed a senior disciple,

‘Be vigilant in keeping track of your time. Spend it in actions that are important. Do not waste it.

Save yourself from excessive mingling with other people. This is because (excessive mingling without a need) ruins the beauty of ‘nisbet e batin’.

Excessive interactions with people without a righteous intention becomes a source of disconnection with Allah.

There is saying of a pious predecessor,
‘Abstain from the bad company and keep good company to the extent that it does not disconnect you from Allah.’

Maktubaat Hazrat Khawaja Mohammed Ma’soom Sirhindi rehmatullah, talkhees wa tar juma, Maktub 13, page 23-4

Islah of spouse

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Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (Allah have mercy on him) said,

‘I received a letter from a female. She has has written few complaints of her husband. She further wrote that if I forbid him from indulgence in wrongful acts he rebukes me excessively. She requested an amulet (ta’weez) or a recitation (wazifa) for his reform (islah).

I wrote to her in reply that if there is no fear of retaliation (to your advice) then you can do so with extreme politeness and flattery. Otherwise, you are excused. Do not say anything (to him in this regards).

(Hakim al Umma then addressed the seekers beside him) Is islah possible by amulets (ta’weez) or recitations (wazifa)?

It is difficult to reform an individual who himself does not want to improve.’

Ifadet al Yoomia, volume 4, page 249-50

Treatment of a sin

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A spiritual aspirant wrote regarding a certain sin and requested for advise in that regard.

Sayyidi wa sanadi Hazrat Moulana Mohammad Taqi Usmani sahib (Allah SWT preserve him and allow us to benefit from him abundantly. Ameen) replied:
“First perform two rakah salatul tauba and seek forgiveness on your past. After that, perform two rakah salatul hajat and pray for your steadfastness. Next time when you desire to do that sin, then recall about the punishment from Allah SWT for this sin and get yourself busy in something else.”

Meraj us Salikeen: Islahi Khutoot #9

Recite durood

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Arifbillah Dr Abdul Hayy Arifi (Allah have mercy on him) said,

‘While reciting the blessed salutation (durood) keep this intention refreshed in your mind that Allah bestowed this method (durood) so we can develop a relationship with the Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him peace). Allah Himself is its medium. This is a huge blessing for which we must be excessively thankful.

Reciting durood with this intention will develop the love of Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him peace) (in us). Moreover, Allah will love us. This is because Allah loves this action and He has commanded us to do so.’

Al Balagh Arifi ra number, page 540

Attraction towards impermissible desires

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A spiritual aspirant wrote:
After leaving bad habits (watching movies, songs, bad nazri etc) I feel more attracted towards these. I don’t know how do I deal with this?

Sayyidi wa sanadi Hazrat Moulana Mohammad Taqi Usmani sahib (Allah SWT preserve him and allow us to benefit from him abundantly. Ameen) replied:
“There is no impeachment in attraction. You will be impeached only if act on the impermissible (haram) desires.”

Meraj us Salikeen: Islahi Khutoot #9

Maintain severe level alert against nafs

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Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi (Allah have mercy on him) said,

‘Always remember this.

Do not provide an opportunity or the means to the lower self (nafs) to misbehave.

This is extremely important information that is being provided.
Nafs is the devil that destroyed the asceticism (zuhd), God-conscientiousness (taqwa) and sanctity of highly pious individuals in few moments.

Never consider it to be dead.

Sometimes due to unavailability of means (to disobey) it acts subdued. However, it is waiting for the opportunity and means (lurching to strike). ‘

Al Ifadet al Yoomia, volume 4, page 23

Tip to avoid burnout

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Many novice seekers remove all that is not explicitly Islamic from their life. Like permissible hobbies of reading fiction or poetry, keeping collectible items, meeting friends and relatives, interest in cars, gadgets, jewelry or clothes, traveling, dinning out, etc.

This is usually due to a burning desire to be closer to Allah.

However, the spare time they get becomes a source of boredom. This is especially so when the initial phase of overwhelming passion wanes (which is a inevitable normal phenomenon).

This boredom is dangerous and may engulf the religious activities leading to a burnout.

One has to be cautious and take advice from his/her spiritual mentor prior to removing things that are permissible.

As a principle. until a strong, overwhelming and perpetual relationship is developed with Allah one should continue with all his permissible activities. Once nisbet is established all the unnecessary or detrimental involvements will automatically cease.