Category Archives: N. Advice

Treatment for talking too much

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A spiritual aspirant wrote:
I have this problem that I talk too much. Useless discussion with friends / family and talking without thinking and realizing its effects and I am not able to control myself. Please guide me on how to control myself in this regard? Jazaak Allah

Sayyidi wa sanadi Hazrat Moulana Mohammad Taqi Usmani sahib (Allah SWT preserve him and allow us to benefit from him abundantly. Ameen) replied:
“This thing is very harmful on this tareeq (path of self reformation). Stop yourself forcefully from talking more and only talk when required. Avoid useless discussions completely.”

Meraj us Salikeen: Islahi Khutoot #12

Condolence: Prophet’s letter (Allah’s blessings & peace be upon him)

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“In the name of Allah, Most Kind, Most Merciful.

From Muhammad, Allah’s Messenger to Mu’az- Ibn-Jabal.

May the peace of Allah be on you.
l praise Allah before you,the One besides whom there is none worthy of worship.

After praising and glorifying Allah, (I say the following.) May Allah give you great reward and may He guide you to exercise patient endurance. And may He (also) guide us and you to be grateful to Him.

Surely, our souls, wealth and families are wonderful gifts from Allah. He has loaned them to us so that we may take benefit from them for a set period; and he takes them away after completion of that period.

Thus, gratitude becomes binding on us when He gives, and patience becomes obligatory when He takes away.

Your son was also from among the wonderful gifts (of Allah) and a loan (from Him). Allah enabled you to enjoy him in a way that was both enviable (to others) and pleasing (to you); and now, in return for great reward, mercy and forgiveness He has taken him away from you. Provided that you exercise patience. So do exercise patience and do not let your bewailing and complaining destroy your reward, for you will be sorry (if this happens).

Know that bewailing and complaining neither brings back anything nor does it repel grief and sorrow.

And whatever is to happen is set to happen. And it has occurred.

Peace be upon you.’

Tirmidhi, Quoted from Uswa-e-Rasool-e Akram sallalaho alehey wa sallaho wasalam, page 602

Keeping track of time & company

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Khawaja Mohammed Ma’soom Sirhindi (Allah have mercy on him) instructed a senior disciple,

‘Be vigilant in keeping track of your time. Spend it in actions that are important. Do not waste it.

Save yourself from excessive mingling with other people. This is because (excessive mingling without a need) ruins the beauty of ‘nisbet e batin’.

Excessive interactions with people without a righteous intention becomes a source of disconnection with Allah.

There is saying of a pious predecessor,
‘Abstain from the bad company and keep good company to the extent that it does not disconnect you from Allah.’

Maktubaat Hazrat Khawaja Mohammed Ma’soom Sirhindi rehmatullah, talkhees wa tar juma, Maktub 13, page 23-4

Islah of spouse

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Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (Allah have mercy on him) said,

‘I received a letter from a female. She has has written few complaints of her husband. She further wrote that if I forbid him from indulgence in wrongful acts he rebukes me excessively. She requested an amulet (ta’weez) or a recitation (wazifa) for his reform (islah).

I wrote to her in reply that if there is no fear of retaliation (to your advice) then you can do so with extreme politeness and flattery. Otherwise, you are excused. Do not say anything (to him in this regards).

(Hakim al Umma then addressed the seekers beside him) Is islah possible by amulets (ta’weez) or recitations (wazifa)?

It is difficult to reform an individual who himself does not want to improve.’

Ifadet al Yoomia, volume 4, page 249-50

Treatment of a sin

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A spiritual aspirant wrote regarding a certain sin and requested for advise in that regard.

Sayyidi wa sanadi Hazrat Moulana Mohammad Taqi Usmani sahib (Allah SWT preserve him and allow us to benefit from him abundantly. Ameen) replied:
“First perform two rakah salatul tauba and seek forgiveness on your past. After that, perform two rakah salatul hajat and pray for your steadfastness. Next time when you desire to do that sin, then recall about the punishment from Allah SWT for this sin and get yourself busy in something else.”

Meraj us Salikeen: Islahi Khutoot #9

Recite durood

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Arifbillah Dr Abdul Hayy Arifi (Allah have mercy on him) said,

‘While reciting the blessed salutation (durood) keep this intention refreshed in your mind that Allah bestowed this method (durood) so we can develop a relationship with the Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him peace). Allah Himself is its medium. This is a huge blessing for which we must be excessively thankful.

Reciting durood with this intention will develop the love of Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him peace) (in us). Moreover, Allah will love us. This is because Allah loves this action and He has commanded us to do so.’

Al Balagh Arifi ra number, page 540

Attraction towards impermissible desires

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A spiritual aspirant wrote:
After leaving bad habits (watching movies, songs, bad nazri etc) I feel more attracted towards these. I don’t know how do I deal with this?

Sayyidi wa sanadi Hazrat Moulana Mohammad Taqi Usmani sahib (Allah SWT preserve him and allow us to benefit from him abundantly. Ameen) replied:
“There is no impeachment in attraction. You will be impeached only if act on the impermissible (haram) desires.”

Meraj us Salikeen: Islahi Khutoot #9

Maintain severe level alert against nafs

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Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi (Allah have mercy on him) said,

‘Always remember this.

Do not provide an opportunity or the means to the lower self (nafs) to misbehave.

This is extremely important information that is being provided.
Nafs is the devil that destroyed the asceticism (zuhd), God-conscientiousness (taqwa) and sanctity of highly pious individuals in few moments.

Never consider it to be dead.

Sometimes due to unavailability of means (to disobey) it acts subdued. However, it is waiting for the opportunity and means (lurching to strike). ‘

Al Ifadet al Yoomia, volume 4, page 23

Tip to avoid burnout

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Many novice seekers remove all that is not explicitly Islamic from their life. Like permissible hobbies of reading fiction or poetry, keeping collectible items, meeting friends and relatives, interest in cars, gadgets, jewelry or clothes, traveling, dinning out, etc.

This is usually due to a burning desire to be closer to Allah.

However, the spare time they get becomes a source of boredom. This is especially so when the initial phase of overwhelming passion wanes (which is a inevitable normal phenomenon).

This boredom is dangerous and may engulf the religious activities leading to a burnout.

One has to be cautious and take advice from his/her spiritual mentor prior to removing things that are permissible.

As a principle. until a strong, overwhelming and perpetual relationship is developed with Allah one should continue with all his permissible activities. Once nisbet is established all the unnecessary or detrimental involvements will automatically cease.

Brotherly advice

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Commenting on the Prophetic saying narrated in Sahih Bukhari (#104) sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve him) said,

‘Sayedina Abu Shuraih (Allah be pleased with him) taught us a etiquette. That is, irrespective of how evil an individual is and how heinous actions he is committing even then advising or inviting him (to the truth) should be in a manner that does not dishearten him. Moreover, it should take into account his (social) status.’

Inamul Bari, volume 2, page 149

The most superior karamet

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It was reported that an individual walks on (flowing) water.

Shaikh Abu Mohammad Murtaish (Allah have mercy on him) replied,

‘I consider that the person who has been blessed by Allah to be steadfast against his (sinful) desires is most upright and superior to the individual who walks on water and flies in the air.

And (remember) action against one’s desire is only by asceticism (zuhud) and diverting one’s attention away from all (worldly) things.’

Eqaz al Himam, volume 1, page 369