Etiquettes of writing a islahi letter 

 

A spiritual aspirant missed writing bismillah (In the name of Allah)  at the beginning of his islahi letter.

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve him) corrected him,

‘Write Bismillah at the beginning of the letter or 786 (when without wudhu) and recite bismillah.’

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* bismillah is a verse of Holy Quran. It must not be touched without being in state of wudhu

Baiyah: The appropriate time

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A spiritual seeker who had a regular islahi relationship for the previous five years wrote,

A thought that is repeatedly coming is to humbly request you for baiyah. Although, seeing my condition I feel ashamed to make such a request.

I apologize if this is (audacious) self-prescription) [khud raiy] or disrespectful (bay-adab) request. Whatever, you decide in this matter will insha-Allah best for me.

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve him) replied,

‘All praise is for Allah (alhumdulillah).

Now that the reality of baiyah has been clearly understood there is no reservation (in doing so). On your visit over the Eid ul Adha meet me in private and set an appointment. Insha-Allah we will act on this Sunna also. This is provided that you have not  already taken baiyah with respected (Arif-billah Dr Abdul Hayy Arifi,) Allah have mercy on him.  However, if you did, then there is no need (to repeat it).’

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True yearning or wishful desire

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A spiritual seeker wrote,

I am not sure that if this is true yearning or wishful desire that all the time a restlessness and impatience is felt that a strong and perpetual relationship with Allah is (soon) established.

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usani (Allah preserve him) replied,

‘This restlessness and impatience is insha-Allah true yearning. This is a goal in itself.’

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Weekly gathering

 Following message was sent,

As salamu alaykum wrwb.

 I pray and hope that you are doing well.

 In Jeddah on every Monday after maghrib there was a session in our home. I read from a book and if needed did some explanation. It did not exceed 1/2 hour. Usually it was my family however occasionally a neighbor would join. Here we did not resume this. I feel hypocrite and incapable.

Recently family members and a friend asked to resume it. Would it be appropriate to do so?

 Also please make dua that it (in case it’s okay to resume then it) is most beneficial in my own islah. JazakAllah. Muhtaj e dua

Sayyidi wa sanadi Sheikh Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve him) replied,

 Waalaikumussalam

Yes, please, resume it for your own benefit, as it will be a reminder to your own self.

wassalam

Taqi

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InshaAllah from this Sunday 5th April 2015 we will restart this at my residence. Time : 12 noon

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Our master Abu Hurayra (Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (Allah’s blessings and peace be upon him), said,

“The gates of Paradise are opened every Monday and Thursday. Every slave who has not associated any partner with Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala) is forgiven except one who has enmity with his (Muslim) brother. It is said regarding them “Leave them until they make peace with each other”.

Explanation: The meaning of this Hadith is explained by another narration which Imam Mundhiri (rahimahullah) has narrated in Targheeb wa Tarheeb with reference to Awsat Tabrani.  It is stated in that narration that everyone’s deeds are presented (to Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala) every Monday and Thursday. Whoever asked for forgiveness is forgiven, and whoever made Tawba, his Tawba is accepted. But the deeds of those who keep a grudge against each other are returned (meaning their istighfar and tawba are not accepted) until they stop having a grudge against each other. There are also some other Hadith regarding this topic. It is learnt from them that if a Muslim has a grudge against his Muslim brother then he does not deserve the mercy and forgiveness of Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala) until he cleans his heart from this grudge.

Source: Hadith # 411, Al-Adab Al-Mufrad by Imam Bukhari (rahimahullah) with Urdu translation and explanation by Maulana Muhammad Khalid Sahab Khangarhi

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Disgracing an individual

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Shaykh al-Hadeeth Maulana Muhammad Zakariyya Kandhlawi (Allah have mercy on him) said,

“I remembered one thing which is very important, and necessary to vigilantly take care of. I especially emphasize it to my friends. Please take care of it. It comes in a Hadith (to the near meaning) that if one disgraces someone for a sin they committed then he will himself be involved in that sin before his death. I have observed this thing many times. And have also experienced it.

I emphatically advise my friends that to disgrace someone for a sin is a very bad thing.

To advise him, to warn him is something else, but to disgrace him, to humiliate him is something else.

Please take all means to save yourself from this.”

Source: Aap Beeti, Volume 1, Page 301

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Blame: Handling it correctly

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Umm ad-Darda’ (Allah be pleased with her) reported that a man came to her and said,

“A man has said bad things about you in the presence of ‘Abdu’l-Malik.’ She said, “If we are suspected of something which we did not do, then how often have we been praised for something we did not have!”

Explanation: Hazrat Umm ad-Darda’ (Allah be pleased with her) has mentioned something very useful. That is, if someone says bad things about us and finds faults in us then we should tell our Nafs that if he has said something wrong about me then there are other things as well which are said wrong about me. That is, people have praised me for some knowledge or good deed or act of worship, and have said good things about me when in reality I do not possess many of those good things. If I can tolerate those praises which are based on incorrect assumptions then I should also tolerate the wrong things said about me which are based on incorrect assumptions. It is easy to explain to Nafs: Look! The one who has praised you, he has also lied. So you should tolerate this lie as well.

Source: Hadith # 420, Al-Adab Al-Mufrad by Imam Bukhari (rahimahullah) with Urdu translation and explanation by Maulana Muhammad Khalid Sahab Khangarhi

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Bayah online

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A sincere reader wrote,

Assalaamualaikum,
I’m xyz from Malaysia,I want to bayah online and join silsila Ashrafiyya. I very love Hadrat Hakim al Umma Mawlana Ashraf Ali Thanvi.
May Allah bless you Sheikh.

The reply sent,
Bismillah

Respected brother

As salamu alaykum wrwb

JazakAllah

It will be best to establish this relationship with someone whom you can visit repeatedly and benefit from his company/ suhba.

Keep searching for someone in Malaysia.

In meantime do two things,
1. Make dua after every Esha salah in this regards. Ask Allah to facilitate getting connected to a genuine shaykh who can guide you to Him.
2. Try your best to do the faraidh & Sunnah actions and abstain from all that is impermissible.

InshaAllah you will be successful.

Take care.

Please don’t hesitate to contact me for any other information.

In need of your dua,
abd

Suspicion: The biggest lie!

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Our master Abu Hurayra (Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (Allah’s blessings and peace be upon him), said,

“Beware of (bad)opinion.

(Bad)opinion is the most lying form of speech.

Do not deceive one another
nor envy one another
nor hate one another
nor compete with one another excessively (for worldly gains)
nor shun (avoid, ignore) one another.

Rather be the slaves of Allah as brothers.”

The things mentioned in this Hadith are those which tarnish relationships by creating hatred and enmity in the hearts.

The Prophet (Allah’s blessings and peace be upon him) first mentioned (the disease of) having (baseless) bad opinion about others. This is a kind of false delusion. The situation of one who is afflicted with this disease is such that if he has the slightest disagreement with someone, he considers all of their actions to be based on evil intentions. Based on this baseless bad opinion about them, he additionally associates other non-existing bad things to them. The natural reaction to this is that his behaviour towards them is also affected by this. Thereafter there is some reaction from others as well. Hearts break apart due to this, and relationships become stained permanently.

The Prophet (Allah’s blessings and peace be upon him) has called bad-gumani (having bad opinion about others) as the most untrue speech. Apparently it means that lying by tongue is known to everyone as a big sin, but people don’t normally consider having (baseless) bad opinion about others as being a grave sin. Rasulullah (sallalahu ‘alaihi wasallam) has informed us that having (baseless) bad opinion about others is the biggest lie, and this sin of the heart is not less grave than the sin of lying by tongue.
Just like the evilness of having (baseless) bad opinion about others has been mentioned in this Hadith, similarly having good opinion of others has been called the best form of worship in another Hadith. It is stated that “Having good opinion of others is a part of good worship).

After bad-gumani (having (baseless) bad opinion about others), among the other things Rasulullah (sallalahu ‘alaihi wasallam) forbade us is not to deceive each other, and if we see someone in a good state we should not wish bad for him. And we should not shun (avoid, ignore) each other. The case with all these is that these things sow the seed of hatred and enmity in hearts. And the love, sympathy, brotherhood and unity that is expected and desired from our Iman-based relationship with other Muslims becomes impossible.

In the end the Hadith says: “Rather be the slaves of Allah as brothers”. There is an indication in these words that only when you keep your hearts clean from the above-mentioned evil qualities can you truly live as brothers.

Source: Baab Al-Shahnaa’, Hadith Number 410, Adab Al-Mufrad of Imam Bukhari (r.a.) with Urdu Translation and Explanation of Maulana Muhammad Khalid Khan Garhi (student of Maulana Ashiq Ilahi Muhajir Madani Rahimahullah)

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Islah: clarification needed

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An individual send the following email,

Salaams,I find myself in a very dark and low position. I’ve been married for the past 17 years and have 4 children. Last year august I gave my wife a talaq and been living on my own. I have had an “affair” with another woman for the past 7 years and only came to light in the past 2 years.

My wife still want to get back together but I must leave the other woman. The other lady is pregnant and I can’t just leave her and I do love her. This is just my story in short as a lot had happened and I need advice how to go about this all. Please Islamically what am I suppose to do?
Shukran,
was salaam.

The reply sent,

Bismillah

As salamu alaykum wrwb

JazakAllah

It is essential to know what is the purpose of contacting me. Is it the islah of the detrimental morals/ikhlaq that led you to this or it is fiqhi question regarding remarriage with your first wife?

Please, clarify this.

I’m not a mufti or a scholar. I only deal with islahi issues.

Was Salam

Muhtaj e dua

Spiritual benefit from pious: How?

ala ina awliya Allah

‘What is the method of benefiting spiritually from the pious?’

Shaikh Maulana Sayyid Abul Hassan Ali Nadwi (Allah have mercy on him) replied summarizing the gist of the experience of his whole life,

‘It is with respect, silence, patience, listening attentively, keeping the mind clear (especially from) thoughts of suspicion and objection, and not being critical.

One remains silent contemplating that Allah will make them say whatever is best (for me).’

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Cure for Praise of others

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A spiritual aspirant wrote:
When some one praises me in front, I have contradictory feelings in my heart about it. I like it and at the same time I stop those praising me to not praise me. Please guide me on how I should handle this correctly. Jazaak Allah

Sayyidi wa sanadi Hazrat Moulana Mohammad Taqi Usmani sahib (Allah SWT preserve him and allow us to benefit from him abundantly. Ameen) replied:
“Spontaneous natural happiness is not detrimental.
On these occasions contemplate that, all praise is due to Allah SWT, He made them see my good state. If they were to know of my reality they would have hated me.”

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