Sidi wa sanadi Hazrat Moulana Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usmani dbt told us the following regarding his Sheikh Arif-billah Dr Abdul Hayy Arifi ra.
During the 55 years of their married life Dr. Abdul Hayy Arifi ra never ever spoke to his wife with the tone of his voice changing (as to show anger/frustration etc.). This is the real karamat. (That is to have such a high degree of humility, patience and control over your nafs (self) as not to reveal your emotions).
Walking on water and flying in air are considered to be karamat by common people but in reality they are nothing compared to this bay nafasi (selflessness).
وہ تو وہ ہیں تمہیں ہو جائیگی الفت مجھ سے
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