Category Archives: T. Tarbiyet

Contains principle and guidelines on training and disciplining of the morals (ikhlaq) of murid

Our Elders

Hazrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thaanwi (rahimahullah) once mentioned the following:

The reason for me having great confidence in my deeni elders is not because I regard them to be the most learned Ulama in the world, as I know that it is possible that there are other Ulama in the world who may have more knowledge than them.

Rather, the main reason for my confidence in them is that I found them to be people of Allah Ta‘ala. They were not people of the world. Though they lived in the world, but they were not influenced at all by the world and its attractions. They remained distant from the desire for name and fame and wealth and riches.

Their only work in the world was to serve deen and fulfil what deen required from them at all times – even if it meant them sacrificing all their personal benefits and comforts (they were prepared to do so).

(Malfoozaat Hakeemul Ummat 24/79-80)

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The Criteria when selecting a Sheikh

Hakim Al-Umma Moulana Ashraf Ali Thaanwi (Allah have mercy on him) once mentioned:

In the path of seeking self-reformation, it is obvious that a person will be in need of a sheikh (spiritual guide to guide him through the path). However, since many people are unaware of the procedure to follow and the criteria to look for when selecting a sheikh, they err in selecting the right person for their islaah (self-reformation).

Hakim Al-Umma Moulana Ashraf Ali Thaanwi (Allah have mercy on him) thereafter mentioned that the following criteria should be found in the person one wishes to take as his sheikh (spiritual guide):

1. The person should be well acquainted with the laws of shari’ah, though he may not be an aalim who is an expert in every science of deen.

2. He must have knowledge of the path of tasawwuf and sulook, though he may not be a person who experiences kashf, nor a person from whom miracles or supernatural acts are witnessed.

3. He must have spent a considerable amount of time in the company of a sheikh-e-kaamil (a pious spiritual mentor who has completed his islaah under his mashaaikh)

4. When sitting in his majlis, the general effect that one finds is that one’s love for the dunya decreases and a yearning for the Aakhirah is created (or increases) in one’s heart. Similarly, fear for getting involved in sins and the motivation to carry out good deeds is created in the heart, regardless of whether one experiences any spiritual conditions or not.

Despite the person being a sheikh-e-kaamil, if one does not perceive any benefit through remaining in his company, then one should realize that the reason for this is that one does not have compatibility with the sheikh. Therefore, one should leave this sheikh and seek another sheikh.

Nevertheless, even when one does not find compatibility with a particular sheikh, he should not show any form of disrespect to him. This can be compared to the situation where a certain doctor’s treatment is not proving effective for a person. In such a situation, one will refer to another doctor, but an intelligent person will not run-down or disrespect the first doctor.

(Malfoozaat Hakeemul Ummat 24/323)

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وقت کی قدر

عارف باللہ ڈاکٹر عبدالحئی عارفی رحمہ اللہ علیہ

نے مرض الوفات میں انتقال سے کچھ گھنٹہ پہلے عیادت کے لئے ہوۓ متعلقین سے فرمایا

“اپنے اپنے کام میں لگیں۔

وقت ضائع نہ کریں۔

وقت بہت قیمتی ہے۔”

(البلاغ عارفی رح نمبر ص۱۸)

صحبت اہل اللہ

عارف باللہ ڈاکٹر عبدالحئی عارفی رحمہ اللہ علیہ

نے فرمایا: میں تاکیدا” وصیت کرتا ہوں کہ دیندار اللہ والوں کی صحبت کا ضرور ضرور اہتمام رکھا جاۓ۔

زندگی کی حقیقت، زندگی کی صلاحیت، زندگی کی عافیت ان حضرات کے فیوض و برکات صحبت سے نصیب ہوتی ہے۔

(البلاغ عارفی رح نمبر ص۳۶)

Imposing Some Penalty Upon the Nafs

Hakim al Umma Moulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (Allah have mercy on him) once mentioned the following:

If a person is involved in sins, then one method for him to reform himself is that together with sincerely engaging in istighfaar and towbah, he should also impose some penalty upon himself so that this becomes a cause for him to refrain from falling into the sin in the future. This penalty can either be a physical penalty (e.g. fasting for a period of time) or a monetary penalty (i.e. giving a certain amount of money in sadaqah to the poor).

Our Prophet (Allah’s blessing & peace be upon him) mentioned in the Hadith that if a person says to someone (inviting him towards gambling), “Come, let me gamble with you,” then he should give some sadaqah.

In this Hadith, we see that Prophet (Allah’s blessing & peace be upon him) looked at the cause for one wishing to enter into the sin of gambling. The cause for this is the love for wealth. Therefore, he prescribed giving some sadaqah as a penalty, as this will cause the love for wealth to leave one’s heart (and this will also prevent him from falling into the sin in the future).

(Malfoozaat Hakeemul Ummat 23/378)

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Priorities for a Salik

1. Learning the authentic beliefs (aqaid) as per the pious predecessors.

2. Learning the Sunna methodology (fiqh) of performing worship.

3. Abandoning major sinful actions and repenting on minor ones.

4. Get rid of blameworthy moral characteristics (radhail), adopting praiseworthy moral characteristics (fadhail).

5. Earning & consuming a halal livelihood.

6. Getting married, establishing a home and raising children

7. Learning etiquette of financial dealings for everyday life.

8. Actively making a good intention in permissible actions.

9. Actively making an intention of pleasing Allah and following Sunna in all thoughts & actions.

10. Recitation of Sunna adhkar for different occasions (adiya e ma’sora)

11. Recitation of the litanies (adhkar & ashgaal) prescribed by the Sufi Shaykh.

Qutub al Irshad, vol 1, p 92-3

Reading: Be careful

Hakim Al Umma Moulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (Allah have mercy on him) once mentioned the following:

If an irreligious person speaks of something relating to deen, then his speech will contain some darkness in it. Similarly, his writings will also contain some type of darkness in it. On the converse, if a righteous person speaks of something relating to the dunya, his speech will contain noor in it.

The reason is that in reality, a person’s speech originates from his heart. Hence, a person’s speech will definitely contain the effect of his heart. (If his heart is pure, the effect of the purity will be seen in his speech and writings, and if his heart is impure, then the effect of the impurity will similarly be seen in his speech and writings.)

When this is the situation, that the speaker’s inner condition is reflected in his speech, and the writer’s inner condition is reflected in his writing, then one should understand that it is extremely important for one to refrain from sitting in the company of irreligious people (those who are not committed to deen) and nor should one ever read their writings.

Reading the writings of an author is akin to sitting in his company. Thus, the very same ill-effects which one will experience through sitting in the company of an irreligious person will be found through reading his books or writings.

(Malfoozaat Hakeemul Ummat 23/117)

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اصلاح اخلاق

سیدی و سندی حضرت مفتی تقی عثمانی صاحب مدظلہ نے فرمایا،
اصلاح اخلاق کے صرف دو راستے ہیں:
۱۔ صحبت اہل اللہ۔ وہ لوگ جنہوں نے کثرت مجاہدات سے اپنے اخلاق کو معتدل بنالیا ان کی صحبت کی کثرت۔
۲۔ توفیق الہی۔ اس کے لئے دعا کرتے رہنا چاہیے۔ جیسا کے احادیث میں تعلیم کیا گیا ہے۔ (اسئلک خلقا” مستقیما)

درس مناجات مقبول۔ ۷ اگست ۲۰۲۲

On seeing non-Muslims & non-practicing Muslims

A seeker wrote,

Sometimes I would look at non-Muslims, or non-practising-Muslims, and the thought of Hell would cause me grief and anxiety. I would get this feeling of helplessness, that I’m not helping them despite knowing.

Ashrafiya replied,

The best help is to make dua for them and be a role model Muslim. Set two or 3 minutes daily to make dua specifically for all of them.

Islahi emails:KN

Doubts 5: Who is Ahles Sunna?

A seeker wrote, Are the Barelwis within ahlus sunnah wal jamah and the Wahhabis? Or do their tasawuf and aqeeda positions take them out of this rubric?

Ashrafiya replied,

In the domain of islah and Tasawwuf one is most concerned about himself being a true Muslim.

I realized that almost 6 years have passed since our initial communication we must try to see what progress have we made in our spiritual betterment (islah) if any.

All others groups and things are distractors.

اللهم طهر قلبي عن غيرك و نور قلبي بنور معرفتك أبدا” يا الله! يا الله! يا الله!

Islahi emails: NS

Ajman 🇦🇪