A newlywed spiritual seeker inquired:
“I am planning to give an amount of money to my wife monthly. Can I make intention of paying off “mahr” in it? And if so, is it necessary to inform her regarding it.”
Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usmani (Allah protect & preserve him) replied:
“An amount of money should be given to the wife monthly as “pocket money”. This amount should be enough to easily payoff her basic (personal) expenses. And also, the zakat due on her can be paid from it. This stipend should never be counted as “mahr” amount.
However, an amount additional to this stipend can be given with intention of “mahr”. The best way to do so is to open a bank account for her and deposit this amount monthly in it. Let her know that this saving is the “mahr” money. This is because smaller amounts that are given are spend easily and the benefits of a larger amount in hand are lost.”
Please, be reminded that,
The amount should be in proportion to the husband’s income and social status.
Wife should have full authority to do whatsoever with this money.
Sayyidi wa sanadi Shaikh Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve him) said,
‘It is relatively easier to make ‘itekaf (of the last ten days of Ramadan), offer numerous supererogatory (nafil) salah, recite the whole Quran daily, perform many Umrah and Hajj.
However, the real feat is when it comes to leaving the sinful activities. This is the real achievement and mark (of true religiosity). To have control over the sinful desires of nafs. To be steadfast at the time of temptation. Being cognizant of the commands of Allah.
On the Day of Judgment an individual will not be questioned about missing supererogatory worshipful acts but he certainly will be admonished for being involved in sinful activities. ‘
Ramadan 20th, 1432, 21 August 2011, Darul Uloom Karachi Mosque
Data Ganj Baksh Ali Hujwari writes about Khawaja Abu Ahmed Al Muzafer (Allah have mercy on them) ,
‘On a very hot summer day I visited him in a unsettled state. He inquired, What do you desire? I replied, Sama’a (audition). He immediately called for the cantors (qawwal).
During the sama’a session I remained extremely agitated. Eventually when I calmed down he inquired, How much did you enjoy this? I replied, O Sheikh! Very much indeed.
The Shaikh continued, A day will come when the sound of the sama’a and the cry of a crow will become same for you. The influence of sama’a is prior to witnessing the Reality (mushahida). After mushahida the desire for sama’a will vanishes. ‘
Kasheful mahjoob, p 100
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Born February 1966
MBBS. Dow medical college 1991
Diplomate American Board of Pediatrics 1997 & subspecialty Pediatric Infectious Diseases 1999
Islahi ta’luq with Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve him) since 1989.
Received ijaza in 2002
Married. Has 3 daughters.
He works in KSA.
On the death of Mawlana Shah Abrarul Haq (Allah have mercy on him) (died May 17th, 2005), the last surviving khalifa of Hakim al Umma, an individual inquired sayyidi wa sanadi Shaikh Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usmani sahib ( Allah preserve him and allow us to benefit from him a lot. Ameen!) regarding the attitude to be adopted by a murid on the death of his/her Shaikh.
“Regarding this murideen fall into two categories.
First are those who are mojaz (have permission to initiate and guide others). For them it is not essential to take another Shaikh. However, it is very beneficial and advisable to take one and not leave one’s self independent.
Second category is the rest of murideen (disciples). It is absolutely essential for them to take another Shaikh as soon as possible.
In both the cases it is wise to select the next Shaikh from the same silsila (spiritual lineage) with the similar disposition and style (hum mazaq) in approach to Tasawwuf/islah as the recently deceased Shaikh, for uninterrupted spiritual progress.”
Jeddah, 18th May, 2005
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