Category Archives: C. Blame worthy Morals

The bad moral characteristics that have to be removed from within ourselves

Acknowledging one’s mistakes

4. رَبَّنَا ظَلَمۡنَاۤ اَنۡفُسَنَاسكتة وَاِنۡ لَّمۡ تَغۡفِرۡ لَـنَا وَتَرۡحَمۡنَا لَـنَكُوۡنَنَّ مِنَ الۡخٰسِرِيۡنَ‏

“Our Lord, we have wronged ourselves, and if You do not forgive us and do not bless us with mercy, we shall, indeed, be among the losers.”

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammed Taqi Usmani (Allah protect & preserve him) explained that before sending Adam (peace be upon him) on the earth, Allah showed us two examples of mistakes. One mistake was by Iblees when he refused to prostrate to Adam (peace be upon him). When he was asked why he disobeyed Allah he gave logical reasoning to prove that his stance is correct. As a result, he became permanently rejected.

On the other hand was the mistake made by Adam and Hawa (peace be upon them both). When they were asked why they disobeyed Allah, they immediately confessed to their mistake and asked Allah for forgiveness. As a result, they became a model for humanity as to what to do when one makes a mistake.

Ramadan 1440, post zohar dars

Intekhab e Kaiseri

Deviations in Deen

 

رَبَّنَا لَا تُزِغْ قُلُوبَنَا بَعْدَ إِذْ هَدَيْتَنَا وَهَبْ لَنَا مِن لَّدُنكَ رَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّكَ أَنتَ الْوَهَّابُ

“Our Lord, do not let our hearts deviate from the right path after You have given us guidance, and bestow upon us mercy from Your own. Surely, You, and You alone, are the One who bestows in abundance.”

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammed Taqi Usmani (Allah protect & preserve him) explained, among other things:

“This deviation is of two kinds:

1) Deviation in understanding of Deen

As an example, he narrated the following incident:

Once I was in America. A talk used to be conducted after Fajr prayer where people travelling from hundreds of miles away also used to attend. People asked me regarding the matter of Istiwa ‘alal ‘Arsh (Allah’s ascending/sitting on His throne), i.e. is it literal ascending/sitting or figurative.  I asked them: “What gave rise to this question in your minds?” They explained that a scholar from Saudi Arabia visits us to give religious talks. He tells us that “‘Aqeedah must be corrected first. And ‘aqeedah will not be correct until and unless you believe that when Allah tells us that he sat on His throne then it is a literal sitting. You will not be a Muslim until and unless you have this belief.”

The state of the people there was that they did not know the rulings of prayer; they were not aware of several matters related to what is Halal (permissible) and what is Haram (impermissible); they were not aware of the rulings of Nikah (marriage) and Talaq (divorce); they were not aware of Islamic etiquettes and the Sunnah (Prophetic) way of doing things. While the people were lacking in knowledge of all these important matters, they were plunged them into the matter of Istiwa ‘alal Arsh.

I told them to let me meet him the next time he visited. We met after Fajr one day. I sincerely asked him: “You have stirred up the matter of Istiwa ‘alal Arsh among these people while they don’t know how to pray correctly; they are not aware about the Sunnah (Prophet) way of doing things; they are not aware about the rulings of Nikah (marriage) and Talaq(divorce); they are lacking in knowledge of Halal(permissible) and what is Haram (impermissible). Is the matter that whether Allah is sitting on His throne literally or figuratively the most important knowledge for these people?

He said this matter is part of ‘aqeedah (beliefs) and ‘aqeedah(beliefs) are more important than actions. I asked him, is this such a belief about which you will be questioned in the grave? Or on the Day of Judgment? Hearing this, he became lost for words. I told him that beliefs are of two types; one type is of those without believing in which a person cannot attain salvation in the Hereafter; another type is of those on which a person’s salvation is not dependent. What unnecessary disputes are you plunging the people into!? After explaining this to him for some time, Alhamdulillah Allah Ta’ala made him understand the point. I asked him to teach people the straight-forward practical teachings of Deen, and that if the same topic is discussed further, people will divide into groups and sects and a Fitna (dispute) will be raised up.

 

One means of this intellectual deviation is that one attends discourses of all and sundry; one may see that a large crowd attends the lectures of so and so, and begin attending those lectures. This mode of action has the risk that if one begins liking these lectures, e.g. due to the style of the speaker, or his beautiful language, or he mentions certain points which seem attractive, or one is entertained by the lecture, or due to the large crowd attending, then one may begin absorbing all that he says without being able to objectively judge (due to one’s lack of knowledge) whether the lectures contain something which is incorrect.

Rather one should search for a reliable source of knowledge which one trusts and which scholars trust, and they have also spent time in the company of Ahlullah, then stick to it. Our elders say یک در گیر و محکم گیر (Hold on to one door, and hold fast to it). This important principal is known as Tawheed-e-Matlab in the terminology of Tasawwuf.

Sayyidi further explained that becoming famous among the masses is not a sign of being correct and being accepted in the court of Allah. Rather, becoming famous and respected among those having knowledge and understanding of Deen, and then becoming famous among the masses is one of the signs of being correct and being accepted in the court of Allah.

 

2) Deviation in actions

 

As a treatment for this, my Shaykh Dr Abdul Hayy Arifi (May Allah’s mercy be upon him) used to say:

“Imagine it is the Day of Judgment. Your deeds are being presented to you. Allah asks you: “Why did you do this when I prohibited you from it? Why didn’t you do that when I commanded you to do it?” Imagine you reply: “Oh Allah! I was weak. I was brought up in an unreligious atmosphere. The environment around me encouraged me towards your disobedience. My nafs and Shaytan overpowered me. My friends and family also spurred me towards your disobedience.”

Now imagine Allah asks you: “Why didn’t you tell me? When I repeatedly told you in the Quran that “Allah is powerful over everything”, did you think I was powerless to help you?”

What reply can you give to Allah? ”

“Do this now while you are alive. Tell Allah all your difficulties and fears in terms of falling into His disobedience and ask His protection. Once you have taken all practical measures to obey Him and avoid His disobedience, and have told Him about your fears and asked Him for protection, then you have done your job.”

Intekhab e Kaiseri

Ramadan 1440, post zohar majlis, MasjidDarulUloomKarachi

Dealing with non-mehram

 

An individual asked the following question:

There are many Muslims living and working in countries where there is widespread immodesty. Avoiding interaction with non-Mahram females is almost impossible for them. What should they do to avoid sins of the eyes?

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammed Taqi Usmani (May Allah protect & preserve him) replied:

‘This is a big problem nowadays, no doubt, even in some Muslim countries.

Two things need to be avoided:

1. Intentionally looking at non-Mahram females with the intention to derive pleasure

2. Intentionally thinking about non-Mahram females with the intention to derive pleasure.

Two things are needed to achieve this:

1. Using one’s will power and determination, i.e. forcing oneself against the carnal desires of one’s lower self

2. Asking Allah for protection.

He asked those present:

What do you think? If a slave sincerely asks Allah for protection, will He not grant His protection? Definitely He will grant His protection!

Another individual asked:

I have read in Hakim al Umma Thanvi’s (Allah’s mercy be upon him) discourses that sins of the eyes are so destructive that their effect can cause the beneficial effects of all the recitations, prayers, and other forms of worship become null and void.

Shaykh replied:

If a slave is sincerely doing the two things I have mentioned then nothing will cause his actions to go to waste. Rather, take note– this is not an invitation to sin– but if a person, after making his best effort and sincerely asking Allah for help, slips and commits a sin, then the subsequent Tawba will elevate his status.

He continued:

My Shaikh Dr Abdul Hayy Arifi (May his secret be sanctified) was a lawyer by profession. But he was uncomfortable with this profession as sometimes he would have to be involved in cases where his role in the case would be doubtful or disliked from Shariah point of view. He finally decided to quit and become a homeopathic doctor instead. He informed Hakim al Umma Thanvi (Allah’s mercy be upon him) about this decision.

Hakim al Umma (Allah’s mercy be upon him) replied:“I was waiting for this.

And now I give you ijazet-e-baiyat.”

Anyway, when respected Dr Abdul Hayy Arifi (Allah have mercy on him) started his clinic all sorts of people would come to him, including women who wore clothes which were contrary to Shariah. He became worried that he left his profession as a lawyer to avoid doing anything contrary to Shariah, now he has fallen into another problem! He wrote to Hakim al Umma regarding his predicament.

Hakim al Umma replied:

Take care of two things:

1. Force yourself to avoid looking at non-Mahram females with the intention of deriving pleasure

2. Sincerely, humbly, and with all humility, ask Allah for protection from falling into his disobedience.

Intekhab e Kaiseri, Ramadan 1440, post zohar majlis, office, Darul Uloom Karachi

Showing off

Somebody asked regarding getting random thoughts (wasawis) of riya (showing off).

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammed Taqi Usmani ( Allah preserve & protect him) replied that riya is a volitional act. It is done, it does not happen by itself.

So one should not be too worried about getting such stray random thoughts. However, there is a chance that these random thoughts may develop into actual riya. So one should remain cautious at all times and vigilantly take note of what thoughts make one happy. At the same time, one should inform Allah Ta’ala about these stray thoughts and seek His protection (i.e. do ruju ilallah).

Look! I have already told you that ruju ilallahis the key to Tareeqat! Just take this one thing with yourself! Adopt it as your way of life!”

Intekhab e Kaiseri, Ramadan 1440

My standing

Shaikh Mahfouz (Allah have mercy on him) said,

‘Do not weigh people on your scale.

Weigh yourself in the scale of the pious selected travelers (on the path).

By doing so you will see the blessings bestowed on them and your own destituteness.’

Masalik-us-salikeen, pg 2

Definition of useless speech

A seeker inquired regarding the criteria for ascertaining what speech is useless.

Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi (Allah have mercy on him) replied,

‘This is an issue that requires mental reasoning (ijtihad).

Access mentally that if I do not say this thing is it going to harm me or another in religious or worldly matters to any extent (tiny or big).

If it is then say it. Otherwise don’t.

This is the criteria, especially in the beginning. ‘

Tarbiyet us Salik, volume 3, page 185

Intention when reminding others

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammed Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve & protect him) inquired from one of his mojaz regarding the weekly majalis (gatherings of mutual reminding).

In response to the update provided he said,

‘They should be done with the intention of your own self-reformation (islah). ‘

Millennium Hotel, Makkah e mukarramah. After esha. 9th January 2019

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammed Taqi Usmani (Allah protect & preserve him. Ameen!) wrote,

(12) The verse signifies that one must not follow whims and conjectures, nor should he act on presumptions based on surmises. He should act on premises based on knowledge. If someone believes in conjectures without proper investigation, he will be questioned on the Day of Reckoning on what basis he accommodated this belief in his heart, and whether he believed in something after seeing it with his own eyes, or hearing it with his ears. If he believed in it without proper investigation through these sources of knowledge, he will be punished.

The Meanings of Noble Quran, Chapter 17-Isra

Dealing with evil notions

Shaykh Ibrāhīm al-Khawwāṣ (may Allah grant him His mercy) said,

The beginning of sin is the (random) evil notion (خاطر).

If its owner does not obviate it by disliking it, it will become (a persistent) resistance.

If its owner does not obviate it by resisting it, it becomes whispering.

If its owner does not correct it through discipline, from it will awaken lusts with [his] capriciousness, and it will obstruct one’s mind, knowledge, and clear distinction. (Leading to sinful involvement.)

The infamies of the soul and their treatment (edit)

Essence of the path

Hakim al Umma Moulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (Allah have mercy on him) once mentioned:

The purpose of self-reformation is to acquire the pleasure of Allah. In order for one to gain self-reformation, one requires two things; knowledge of the path and correct application of this knowledge. Self-reformation will be obtained through one adhering to the laws of Shariah in accordance to the Sunnah, regardless of whether the laws pertain to our external actions or internal.

In acquiring self-reformation, there are two things that will assist one greatly; remaining in zikr at all times, and remaining in the company of the pious servants of Allah as much as one is able to. If it is difficult for one to remain in the company of the pious all the time, then the substitute is for one to study the lives of our pious predecessors and their advices.

One should refrain from two things as they are the cause of impeding one’s progress; falling into sins and becoming involved in futile activities.

Together with the above, one will only be able to derive full benefit if one regularly reports his condition to his spiritual guide and sheikh (person under whose supervision he is carrying out his self-reformation).

After adopting the necessary procedures in self-reformation, each person will progress and receive blessings from Allah in accordance to his capacity and the level of commitment and dedication he shows. This is the essence of the path of self-reformation.

(Malfoozaat Hakeemul Ummat 23/56)

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Veils to certitude

Shaikh Ibraheem bin Adham (Allah have mercy on him) said,

There are three veils covering our hearts. Certitude (Yaqeen) does not develop until they are removed. They are,

1. Being happy with what we have.

2. Being sad for that which we do not have

3. Being happy when we are praised

(The reason is that) being happy with what we have is due to greed ( a blameworthy-trait) . Being sad for what we do not have is because of anger. Anger (is also a blame worthy trait that) results in punishment (from Allah). Whereas, being happy when we are praised is due to sense of high self regard (ujub). This ujub destroys the good actions.

Ahya al Uloom bab faqr o zuhd via

Advice: when in Makkah

Shaykh Khalid Kurdi (Allah have mercy on him) said that in the blessed city of Madinah he requested a Yemeni Shaykh for dua and advice prior to departing for Makkah mukarramah.

The Yemeni Shaykh made dua for him and instructed,

‘Do not waste time there.

Use it effectively in tawaf, supererogatory salah, recitation of Holy Quran, remembrance of Allah (dhikr) or performing your missed (qaza) salah.

Moreover, under all circumstances avoid all (even in your thoughts), criticism of, and argumentation with, anyone in the Holy precinct of Makkah.

Be busy with your own work. ‘

Khutbat e Mashaheer , volume 2, p 77

Hardening of Heart

A spiritual aspirant wrote,

On the death of (my) child his mother is (extremely) disturbed. She cries repeatedly on simple matters and expresses sorrow. Compared to her despair my grief is nothing. Moreover, on hearing from people about losing a child I feel minimal sorrow in my heart. Because of this I fear that my heart has hardened (قساوت القلب) and I have no attachment with my children.

Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi (Allah have mercy on him) replied,

‘Having attachment (to children) in itself is not a requirement. Therefore, its deficiency or absence should not be worrisome. Attachment is required to fulfill their rights. There should not be any deficiency in this.

Hardening of heart entails being brave on committing sinful.

Lack of attachment and feelings is not hardening of heart. It is something that is, also, to an extent coveted.

Tarbiyet us Salik, volume 3, p174-5

Treatment for hurtful words

A spiritual aspirant wrote,

For a long duration I am afflicted with this spiritual disease of being harsh when speaking the truth explicitly. People are hurt by it, sometimes forever and on other occasions momentarily.

After (this happens) I feel excessively distressed for hurting the feelings of an individual. Sometimes I apologize but still I feel sorry. I also make dua often after salah. Asking Allah for facilitation in controlling my speech, so that I do not indulge in useless talk.

I wanted to write about this illness to you for a long time, however, yesterday you spoke about the Prophet’s (Allah bless him and grant him peace) saying من سلم المسلمون. It reminded me of this. I humbly request you to, please, prescribe a treatment for it.

Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi (Allah have mercy on him) replied,

‘For few days restrict yourself from advising and instructing (nasiha) others.

Remember this and with determination act on it.

Implementing this for some days will, InshaAllah, create a balance.

However, if there is an occasion where you consider that instruction is mandatory (wajib) then ask another individual to say it. In this way a mandatory duty will not be abandoned. ‘

Tarbiyet us Salik, volume 2, chapter 3, p 168