Following is a summary of a talk by ‘Arif-billah Dr Abdul Hayy ‘Arifi (Allah have mercy on him) ,
Keep your understanding of Tasawwuf clear.
Do not be misled by those who consider it to be limited to the recitation of litanies and excessive remembrance (dhikr).
Practical application of Tasawwuf in everyday life boils down to paying close attention to the rights of the others. Make sure that you do not become a source of any discomfort for them, however, minute it may be.
And remember, the most immediate, important and best evaluation of your success in this endeavor will be your dealings, attitude and behavior with your spouse .