‘These days the main battle front for our nafs is in dealings with spouse.
The closer the relationship more are the chances of blameworthy morals to be manifested in behavior and attitude.
One has to take extra-precautions to avoid this from happening.
As rule one has to suspect him/herself to be the culprit, lacking proper adab and try the best to behave.
We should never ever try to do islah of our spouse!
This is the job of their Shaikh.
We have to focus on our own islah all the time.