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Hardening of Heart

A spiritual aspirant wrote,

On the death of (my) child his mother is (extremely) disturbed. She cries repeatedly on simple matters and expresses sorrow. Compared to her despair my grief is nothing. Moreover, on hearing from people about losing a child I feel minimal sorrow in my heart. Because of this I fear that my heart has hardened (قساوت القلب) and I have no attachment with my children.

Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi (Allah have mercy on him) replied,

‘Having attachment (to children) in itself is not a requirement. Therefore, its deficiency or absence should not be worrisome. Attachment is required to fulfill their rights. There should not be any deficiency in this.

Hardening of heart entails being brave on committing sinful.

Lack of attachment and feelings is not hardening of heart. It is something that is, also, to an extent coveted.

Tarbiyet us Salik, volume 3, p174-5

Bringing children to the pious

Maulana Abdul Majeed Bachrayuni (Allah have mercy on him) inquired, ‘ What is the benefit for children in attending the gathering (majlis) of the pious elders?

Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi (Allah have mercy on him) replied,

‘They develop affinity (uns) with the pious. It is this affinity that leads to increase in (this) relationship. Therefore, their attendance in these gathering is not without benefit. ‘

Anwar al Majeed, p 19

Treatment for hurtful words

A spiritual aspirant wrote,

For a long duration I am afflicted with this spiritual disease of being harsh when speaking the truth explicitly. People are hurt by it, sometimes forever and on other occasions momentarily.

After (this happens) I feel excessively distressed for hurting the feelings of an individual. Sometimes I apologize but still I feel sorry. I also make dua often after salah. Asking Allah for facilitation in controlling my speech, so that I do not indulge in useless talk.

I wanted to write about this illness to you for a long time, however, yesterday you spoke about the Prophet’s (Allah bless him and grant him peace) saying من سلم المسلمون. It reminded me of this. I humbly request you to, please, prescribe a treatment for it.

Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi (Allah have mercy on him) replied,

‘For few days restrict yourself from advising and instructing (nasiha) others.

Remember this and with determination act on it.

Implementing this for some days will, InshaAllah, create a balance.

However, if there is an occasion where you consider that instruction is mandatory (wajib) then ask another individual to say it. In this way a mandatory duty will not be abandoned. ‘

Tarbiyet us Salik, volume 2, chapter 3, p 168

Pious company: How much?

A question was put forward regarding the optimal duration of keeping company (suhba) of Shaikh.

Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanawi (Allah have mercy on him) replied,

‘The optimal duration of this association is until the reality of the path (tareeq) is clearly understood. Once this is happens and a congeniality is developed with this path it is no more necessary. ‘

Husn al Aziz, vol 1, part 2, p 118

Tip for success

Shaikh Moulana Muhammad Zakariyya (Allah have mercy on him) once advised a person:

In order for you to acquire focus and remain composed at all times, it will be necessary for you to make a timetable, allocating time for each responsibility. Thereafter, if you adhere strictly to your timetable, you will be able to easily complete all your various works with complete ease and undivided attention. Over time, working in this manner will become your second nature.

(Qutbul Aqtaab Hazrat Sheikhul Hadith Moulana Muhammad Zakariyya (rahmatullahi ‘alaih) pg. 387)

Airport

Karachi-Jeddah

Sunna of washing hands prior to eating

Sayyidi wa sanadi Shaikh Mufti Mohammed Taqi Usmani (Allah protect & preserve him) was requested to join the dinner at wedding reception.

Shaikh asked the host for location of the restroom to wash hands. It was located far away so provision was made to wash hands in the garden nearby.

As Shaikh was washing hands he commented,

‘These days this Sunna (the habit of Prophet, Allah’s blessings and peace be upon him) of washing hands prior to eating is being neglected (especially in big events and gatherings).’

Sunset Club, Banquet hall, Phase 2 ext. DHA. 19 August 2018, 2300

Reflections on Hajj

Shaikh Dr Ghulam Mohammed khalifa of Allama Syed Suleman Nadwi (Allah have mercy on them) wrote the following after performing Hajj in 1971 (1390 Hijri),

‘The number of people performing Hajj is increasing every year due to spreading affluence, ease of transportation and availability of luxuries in Haramain. However, the number of sincere individuals (performing Hajj correctly) is steadily decreasing.

In general the pilgrims are neglectful of the etiquettes (adab), their reverence (ta’zeem) and the requisite knowledge of the procedure (masail of Hajj).

True repentance after Hajj and desire of changing the sinful lifestyle to a virtuous one is nonexistent and has become a meaningless thought. ‘

Jamal e Aagahi, p58

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Unfortunately fifty years later the situation is the same.

Serving parents on Hajj

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammed Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve & protect him) instructed brothers proceeding for Hajj with their parents,

‘You will get reward for two Hajj. One for your’s and the other for facilitating the Hajj of your respected parents.

Remember that serving your parents on this blessed journey is most meritorious. The service you provide to them will compensate for all extra worship, like nafil tawaf, etc.

(Therefore, consider yourself to be fortunate and avail this opportunity to the best of your ability.)

Office Darul Uloom Karachi, 28/7/2018, after zohar

Advice for those proceeding for Hajj

A scholar requested for advice in regards to his Hajj journey.

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammed Taqi Usmani (Allah protect & preserve him) said,

‘Make sure that time is not wasted. Utilize it effectively in tawaf, tilawet (recitation of Holy Quran) and adhkar.

These are only few days as mentioned in the Holy Quran

Usually people waste time in socializing with friends etc. (This should be avoided.)’

Masjid Darul Uloom, Karachi 28 July 2018, after zohar

Islah

A 17 year old A-Level student wrote,

Assalamualaikum wrwb.

Question:

At this present time what are my duties as a salik and what do you expect from me so that i can try my best and dont disappoint you?

Wassalam

The following answer was given by his mentor,

Wa alaykum as salaam wrwb.

JazakAllah

MashaAllah. This thought (fikr) is reflective of your yearning (talab) (to gain Allah’s pleasure). May Allah increase it more with afiyet. Ameen.

It is essential

1. To fulfill the daily essential (faraiz), highly recommended (wajibaat) and Sunna actions

2. Abstain from all that is sinful

3. Fulfill your duties as a son and a student

All of the above to the best of your abilities.

Structured daily routine, heartfelt supplications (dua) and some basic daily recitation & readings (mamoolaat) facilitate all of the above.

Take care.

Muhtaj e dua

‘ abd

Teaching Etiquettes

After a prayers, Grand-Mufti of Pakistan Mufti Mohammed Rafi’ Usmani (Allah preserve & protect him) was walking towards a door of the Masjid to exit when someone approached him, shook hands with him and began talking to him about something. During this time a second person tried to approach him and shake his hands. Respected Mufti sternly pointed with his hands to him to stay away.

He was teaching him the basic etiquette that when two people are engaged in a conversation then a third should not interfere without permission.

Instead of a verbal lesson, this practical lesson will probably prove to be much more effective.

Ramadan 1439, malfuzaat collated by Br Kaiser Nizamani

Bring gifts

Grand-Mufti of Pakistan Mufti Mohammed Rafi’ Usmani (Allah preserve & protect him)advised seekers (performing eitikaf) that when returning to their respective cities/countries they should bring some gift for their family members.

Ramadan 1439, malfuzaat collated by Br Kaiser

Nizamani

Thankfulness

The Grand-Mufti of Pakistan Mufti Mohammed Rafi’ Usmani ( Allah preserve & protect him) was informed by his secretary that some people had sent him gifts of mangos.

The Shaikh personally called each person who had sent the gifts to thank them, reminding of the Hadith: “He who does not thank people is not thankful to Allah.”

Ramadan 1439, malfuzaat collated by Br KaiserNizamani

The soul of worship

Summary of Ramadan 1439 Last 10 days Discourses:

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammed Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve & protect him) said,

Whatever actions we perform, such as prayers, fasting, Hajj, Zakah etc. are like a body. However there is a soul behind these actions without which these actions become useless in the Hereafter. The soul of all actions depends on three things:

1) Eeman, i.e. belief. This means that a person must be a Muslim for any action to be acceptable in the Court of Allah. Alhamdulillah Allah has given us Eeman. We must continue to ask Allah to protect and strengthen this Eeman.

Shaikh mentioned the following duas taught by the Prophet (Allah’s blessings and peace be upon him) related to this:

a) اللهم إني أسألك إيمانا يباشر قلبي

“O Allah! I ask you for Eeman which settles deep in my heart.”

b) اللهم اني أسالك إيماناً لا يرتد

“O Allah! I beg you for the Eeman which will not be shaken.”

c) اللهم اني أسالك إيماناً دائما

“O Allah! I beg you for perpetual Eeman.”

2) Ikhlas, i.e. sincerity. Normally Satan does not openly incite us to do an action just to show to others, as it is unlikely for a normal practicing Muslim to fall into this trap. However Satan attacks a person’s Ikhlas by telling him “What would people say if you don’t do this action”. As a result, the person may do some action to avoid being criticized by people, hence tainting the Ikhlas.

Shaikh mentioned that the reward of a single action can be increased if multiple intentions are made for it. For example, the following intentions can be made for eating or drinking:

a) I will make Shukr (gratitude) of Allah after eating/drinking.

b) I will be following the Sunnah of  the Prophet (Allah’s blessings and peace be upon him), as he would eat food when it was brought in front of him.

c) I will use the energy I get from this food in fulfilling the commandments of Allah.

Similarly several intentions can be combined in many daily actions. Since it is normally difficult to remember to make all these intentions each time before doing each action, an easy way of achieving this is to make all these intentions at the beginning of the day. Inshallah all these intentions will be rewarded in this way as well.

Beyond this, Shaikh explained that sometimes a person’s intention can be better than his action. He quoted a Hadith the gist of which is:
“A person will be brought on the Day of Judgment and angels will present his book of deeds. One by one all his good deeds will be rejected as they were not done for the sake of Allah. After all the deeds will be rejected, Allah will command the angels to write so and so good deeds in his record. The angels will remark that he had not performed those good deeds. At this Allah will say that he had made an intention to do them.”

Further, Shaikh explained the following Hadith regarding the benefits of good intentions and the dangers of bad intentions:

“The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: ‘The likeness of this nation is that of four people: A man to whom Allah gives wealth and knowledge, so he acts according to his knowledge with regard to his wealth, spending it as it should be spent; a man to whom Allah gives knowledge, but he does not give him wealth, so he says: “If I had been given (wealth) like this one, I would have done what (the first man) did.” The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: ‘They will be equal in reward. And a man to whom Allah gives wealth but does not give knowledge, so he squanders his wealth and spends it in inappropriate ways; and a man to whom Allah gives neither knowledge nor wealth, and he says: “If I had (wealth) like this one, I would do what (the third man) did.” The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: ‘They are equal in their burden (of sin).’”

3) Sidq, which is a comprehensive word which includes the meanings that the actions must be in accordance with Sunnah. Shaikh gave examples that Wudu done with wastage of water would not have complete Sidq as wasting water during Wudu is prohibited even if Wudu is done at a flowing river.

Ramadan 1439, malfuzaat collated by Br KaiserNizamani