Blame: Handling it correctly

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Umm ad-Darda’ (Allah be pleased with her) reported that a man came to her and said,

“A man has said bad things about you in the presence of ‘Abdu’l-Malik.’ She said, “If we are suspected of something which we did not do, then how often have we been praised for something we did not have!”

Explanation: Hazrat Umm ad-Darda’ (Allah be pleased with her) has mentioned something very useful. That is, if someone says bad things about us and finds faults in us then we should tell our Nafs that if he has said something wrong about me then there are other things as well which are said wrong about me. That is, people have praised me for some knowledge or good deed or act of worship, and have said good things about me when in reality I do not possess many of those good things. If I can tolerate those praises which are based on incorrect assumptions then I should also tolerate the wrong things said about me which are based on incorrect assumptions. It is easy to explain to Nafs: Look! The one who has praised you, he has also lied. So you should tolerate this lie as well.

Source: Hadith # 420, Al-Adab Al-Mufrad by Imam Bukhari (rahimahullah) with Urdu translation and explanation by Maulana Muhammad Khalid Sahab Khangarhi

Intekhab e Kaiseri 2

Bayah online

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A sincere reader wrote,

Assalaamualaikum,
I’m xyz from Malaysia,I want to bayah online and join silsila Ashrafiyya. I very love Hadrat Hakim al Umma Mawlana Ashraf Ali Thanvi.
May Allah bless you Sheikh.

The reply sent,
Bismillah

Respected brother

As salamu alaykum wrwb

JazakAllah

It will be best to establish this relationship with someone whom you can visit repeatedly and benefit from his company/ suhba.

Keep searching for someone in Malaysia.

In meantime do two things,
1. Make dua after every Esha salah in this regards. Ask Allah to facilitate getting connected to a genuine shaykh who can guide you to Him.
2. Try your best to do the faraidh & Sunnah actions and abstain from all that is impermissible.

InshaAllah you will be successful.

Take care.

Please don’t hesitate to contact me for any other information.

In need of your dua,
abd

Suspicion: The biggest lie!

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Our master Abu Hurayra (Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (Allah’s blessings and peace be upon him), said,

“Beware of (bad)opinion.

(Bad)opinion is the most lying form of speech.

Do not deceive one another
nor envy one another
nor hate one another
nor compete with one another excessively (for worldly gains)
nor shun (avoid, ignore) one another.

Rather be the slaves of Allah as brothers.”

The things mentioned in this Hadith are those which tarnish relationships by creating hatred and enmity in the hearts.

The Prophet (Allah’s blessings and peace be upon him) first mentioned (the disease of) having (baseless) bad opinion about others. This is a kind of false delusion. The situation of one who is afflicted with this disease is such that if he has the slightest disagreement with someone, he considers all of their actions to be based on evil intentions. Based on this baseless bad opinion about them, he additionally associates other non-existing bad things to them. The natural reaction to this is that his behaviour towards them is also affected by this. Thereafter there is some reaction from others as well. Hearts break apart due to this, and relationships become stained permanently.

The Prophet (Allah’s blessings and peace be upon him) has called bad-gumani (having bad opinion about others) as the most untrue speech. Apparently it means that lying by tongue is known to everyone as a big sin, but people don’t normally consider having (baseless) bad opinion about others as being a grave sin. Rasulullah (sallalahu ‘alaihi wasallam) has informed us that having (baseless) bad opinion about others is the biggest lie, and this sin of the heart is not less grave than the sin of lying by tongue.
Just like the evilness of having (baseless) bad opinion about others has been mentioned in this Hadith, similarly having good opinion of others has been called the best form of worship in another Hadith. It is stated that “Having good opinion of others is a part of good worship).

After bad-gumani (having (baseless) bad opinion about others), among the other things Rasulullah (sallalahu ‘alaihi wasallam) forbade us is not to deceive each other, and if we see someone in a good state we should not wish bad for him. And we should not shun (avoid, ignore) each other. The case with all these is that these things sow the seed of hatred and enmity in hearts. And the love, sympathy, brotherhood and unity that is expected and desired from our Iman-based relationship with other Muslims becomes impossible.

In the end the Hadith says: “Rather be the slaves of Allah as brothers”. There is an indication in these words that only when you keep your hearts clean from the above-mentioned evil qualities can you truly live as brothers.

Source: Baab Al-Shahnaa’, Hadith Number 410, Adab Al-Mufrad of Imam Bukhari (r.a.) with Urdu Translation and Explanation of Maulana Muhammad Khalid Khan Garhi (student of Maulana Ashiq Ilahi Muhajir Madani Rahimahullah)

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Islah: clarification needed

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An individual send the following email,

Salaams,I find myself in a very dark and low position. I’ve been married for the past 17 years and have 4 children. Last year august I gave my wife a talaq and been living on my own. I have had an “affair” with another woman for the past 7 years and only came to light in the past 2 years.

My wife still want to get back together but I must leave the other woman. The other lady is pregnant and I can’t just leave her and I do love her. This is just my story in short as a lot had happened and I need advice how to go about this all. Please Islamically what am I suppose to do?
Shukran,
was salaam.

The reply sent,

Bismillah

As salamu alaykum wrwb

JazakAllah

It is essential to know what is the purpose of contacting me. Is it the islah of the detrimental morals/ikhlaq that led you to this or it is fiqhi question regarding remarriage with your first wife?

Please, clarify this.

I’m not a mufti or a scholar. I only deal with islahi issues.

Was Salam

Muhtaj e dua

Spiritual benefit from pious: How?

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‘What is the method of benefiting spiritually from the pious?’

Shaikh Maulana Sayyid Abul Hassan Ali Nadwi (Allah have mercy on him) replied summarizing the gist of the experience of his whole life,

‘It is with respect, silence, patience, listening attentively, keeping the mind clear (especially from) thoughts of suspicion and objection, and not being critical.

One remains silent contemplating that Allah will make them say whatever is best (for me).’

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Cure for Praise of others

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A spiritual aspirant wrote:
When some one praises me in front, I have contradictory feelings in my heart about it. I like it and at the same time I stop those praising me to not praise me. Please guide me on how I should handle this correctly. Jazaak Allah

Sayyidi wa sanadi Hazrat Moulana Mohammad Taqi Usmani sahib (Allah SWT preserve him and allow us to benefit from him abundantly. Ameen) replied:
“Spontaneous natural happiness is not detrimental.
On these occasions contemplate that, all praise is due to Allah SWT, He made them see my good state. If they were to know of my reality they would have hated me.”

Meraj us Salikeen: Islahi Khutoot #10

Suhba of the pious: Lessons

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A sincere seeker recently stayed in the company of Sheikh Maulana Qamaruz Zaman Allahbadi (Allah preserve him) for few days. He shared the following beneficial observations. May Allah reward him. Amin!

1. Consistency in routine

2. Engrossment in scholarly (ilmi) work

3. Up-lifting the spirits (dil-joi) of all, irrespective of their status

4.  Accepting requests of almost everyone. Once he obliged to a person’s request to sit in his car for barakah in very cold night saying how could such a sincere (mukhlis) person be refused.

5. Sometimes (engaging in) humour, (by) using pun etc.

6. Speaking less. (Using) small phrases for expression

7. No criticism (tanqeed) on any group or even the falsehood (baatil).

8. Positive statements about what is right rather than pointing out what is wrong.

9. Having meals with lots of people (wasee dastarkhwaan). Once Hazrat sat with us for lunch saying he was practicing on (the recommendation) ‘eat with the pious’ (“kulu ma saliheen“)

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Observations

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A seeker who is a medical student spent few days of his winter break with another senior seeker. After returning home he reported the following observations,

1. Time for going to mosque should be fixed and strictly followed. All preparations and wudhu should be done in advance.

2. Tongue should always be busy in remembrance (zikr) of Allah.

3. Studies have priority over all that is nafil e.g. reading religious books etc.

4. One should be good at whatever he does. Principles should be followed and one should be organized.

5. What we have to take from the Akabir and Mashaeikh is their ‘Deeni Mizaaj‘.

6. Reading the biographies of Akabir is very beneficial in getting this mizzaj e.g. Ashraf us Sawaneh

7. One should be a ‘Banda‘ (slave) of Allah SWT,. Be thankful to Allah on whatever one achieves and does not expect perfection.

Danish-e-Hassaan

May Allah make it beneficial for all of us. Amin!

English translation of Urdu books

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Following email was received,
Assalaamu alaikum wa Rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuhu
I believe you are a student of Mufti Taqi Usmaani. If so, could you please pass on to him this important message from me.

I am writing to inform you of a major error in the translation of the hadeeth in Mufti Taqi Usmaani’s book Easy Good Deeds on pg 35.
(9) BEGINNING ALL IMPORTANT

WORK WITH “BISMILLAH”

Recital of “Bismillah” when starting any work

is a sign of Muslims. Our blessed and exalted Prophet has said – Arabic

The translation of the Arabic writes:

‘Every important work not began with Bumillah remains imperfect and half clone”.

I find many grammatical mistakes in the Islamic books and think it is time our respected scholars take some time to check the final publications for errors before putting them on the market. It degrades the work that they are trying to do and incorrect translations like the above are blasphemous to say the least. I think it would be better to have fewer books of better quality rather than thousands containing any errors. I lack trust in them and am reluctant to give them to my students and non-Muslims.
Could you please reply to this email to acknowledge my message. Jazakallahu khairan.
Sincerely
Sr K A
Melbourne, Australia

The reply sent was,

Bismillah

As salamu alaykum wrwb

JazakAllah

I totally agree with you.

Please, keep in mind that most of these translations are being done by publishers. They are not familiar with English language and are hiring substandard translation services.

Books that are primarily written in English may be free from such mistakes. However English is not Mufti sahib’s mother tongue.

Some British and American publishers are trying to come up with better editions of these works.

I would like to ask your permission to publish your email on the website. This is to increase the awareness and importance of this issue.

Take care.

In need of your dua

abd
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This should encourage our Scholars who know Urdu to edit such works (fi sabil-lillah) and come up with reliable editions that are appealing to the contemporary readers.

Books by akabir have their own barakah.

If one assigns 20 minutes daily for such task within a year many good works will be ready for publication. Moreover, it will become perpetual charity (sadqa e jariya) from them.

Wa ma tawfiqi ila billah