Category Archives: C. Blame worthy Morals

The bad moral characteristics that have to be removed from within ourselves

Dealing with non-mehram


An individual asked the following question:

There are many Muslims living and working in countries where there is widespread immodesty. Avoiding interaction with non-Mahram females is almost impossible for them. What should they do to avoid sins of the eyes?

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammed Taqi Usmani (May Allah protect & preserve him) replied:

‘This is a big problem nowadays, no doubt, even in some Muslim countries.

Two things need to be avoided:

1. Intentionally looking at non-Mahram females with the intention to derive pleasure

2. Intentionally thinking about non-Mahram females with the intention to derive pleasure.

Two things are needed to achieve this:

1. Using one’s will power and determination, i.e. forcing oneself against the carnal desires of one’s lower self

2. Asking Allah for protection.

He asked those present:

What do you think? If a slave sincerely asks Allah for protection, will He not grant His protection? Definitely He will grant His protection!

Another individual asked:

I have read in Hakim al Umma Thanvi’s (Allah’s mercy be upon him) discourses that sins of the eyes are so destructive that their effect can cause the beneficial effects of all the recitations, prayers, and other forms of worship become null and void.

Shaykh replied:

If a slave is sincerely doing the two things I have mentioned then nothing will cause his actions to go to waste. Rather, take note– this is not an invitation to sin– but if a person, after making his best effort and sincerely asking Allah for help, slips and commits a sin, then the subsequent Tawba will elevate his status.

He continued:

My Shaikh Dr Abdul Hayy Arifi (May his secret be sanctified) was a lawyer by profession. But he was uncomfortable with this profession as sometimes he would have to be involved in cases where his role in the case would be doubtful or disliked from Shariah point of view. He finally decided to quit and become a homeopathic doctor instead. He informed Hakim al Umma Thanvi (Allah’s mercy be upon him) about this decision.

Hakim al Umma (Allah’s mercy be upon him) replied:“I was waiting for this.

And now I give you ijazet-e-baiyat.”

Anyway, when respected Dr Abdul Hayy Arifi (Allah have mercy on him) started his clinic all sorts of people would come to him, including women who wore clothes which were contrary to Shariah. He became worried that he left his profession as a lawyer to avoid doing anything contrary to Shariah, now he has fallen into another problem! He wrote to Hakim al Umma regarding his predicament.

Hakim al Umma replied:

Take care of two things:

1. Force yourself to avoid looking at non-Mahram females with the intention of deriving pleasure

2. Sincerely, humbly, and with all humility, ask Allah for protection from falling into his disobedience.

Intekhab e Kaiseri, Ramadan 1440, post zohar majlis, office, Darul Uloom Karachi

Showing off

Somebody asked regarding getting random thoughts (wasawis) of riya (showing off).

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammed Taqi Usmani ( Allah preserve & protect him) replied that riya is a volitional act. It is done, it does not happen by itself.

So one should not be too worried about getting such stray random thoughts. However, there is a chance that these random thoughts may develop into actual riya. So one should remain cautious at all times and vigilantly take note of what thoughts make one happy. At the same time, one should inform Allah Ta’ala about these stray thoughts and seek His protection (i.e. do ruju ilallah).

Look! I have already told you that ruju ilallahis the key to Tareeqat! Just take this one thing with yourself! Adopt it as your way of life!”

Intekhab e Kaiseri, Ramadan 1440

Definition of useless speech

A seeker inquired regarding the criteria for ascertaining what speech is useless.

Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi (Allah have mercy on him) replied,

‘This is an issue that requires mental reasoning (ijtihad).

Access mentally that if I do not say this thing is it going to harm me or another in religious or worldly matters to any extent (tiny or big).

If it is then say it. Otherwise don’t.

This is the criteria, especially in the beginning. ‘

Tarbiyet us Salik, volume 3, page 185

Intention when reminding others

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammed Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve & protect him) inquired from one of his mojaz regarding the weekly majalis (gatherings of mutual reminding).

In response to the update provided he said,

‘They should be done with the intention of your own self-reformation (islah). ‘

Millennium Hotel, Makkah e mukarramah. After esha. 9th January 2019

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammed Taqi Usmani (Allah protect & preserve him. Ameen!) wrote,

(12) The verse signifies that one must not follow whims and conjectures, nor should he act on presumptions based on surmises. He should act on premises based on knowledge. If someone believes in conjectures without proper investigation, he will be questioned on the Day of Reckoning on what basis he accommodated this belief in his heart, and whether he believed in something after seeing it with his own eyes, or hearing it with his ears. If he believed in it without proper investigation through these sources of knowledge, he will be punished.

The Meanings of Noble Quran, Chapter 17-Isra

Dealing with evil notions

Shaykh Ibrāhīm al-Khawwāṣ (may Allah grant him His mercy) said,

The beginning of sin is the (random) evil notion (خاطر).

If its owner does not obviate it by disliking it, it will become (a persistent) resistance.

If its owner does not obviate it by resisting it, it becomes whispering.

If its owner does not correct it through discipline, from it will awaken lusts with [his] capriciousness, and it will obstruct one’s mind, knowledge, and clear distinction. (Leading to sinful involvement.)

The infamies of the soul and their treatment (edit)

Essence of the path

Hakim al Umma Moulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (Allah have mercy on him) once mentioned:

The purpose of self-reformation is to acquire the pleasure of Allah. In order for one to gain self-reformation, one requires two things; knowledge of the path and correct application of this knowledge. Self-reformation will be obtained through one adhering to the laws of Shariah in accordance to the Sunnah, regardless of whether the laws pertain to our external actions or internal.

In acquiring self-reformation, there are two things that will assist one greatly; remaining in zikr at all times, and remaining in the company of the pious servants of Allah as much as one is able to. If it is difficult for one to remain in the company of the pious all the time, then the substitute is for one to study the lives of our pious predecessors and their advices.

One should refrain from two things as they are the cause of impeding one’s progress; falling into sins and becoming involved in futile activities.

Together with the above, one will only be able to derive full benefit if one regularly reports his condition to his spiritual guide and sheikh (person under whose supervision he is carrying out his self-reformation).

After adopting the necessary procedures in self-reformation, each person will progress and receive blessings from Allah in accordance to his capacity and the level of commitment and dedication he shows. This is the essence of the path of self-reformation.

(Malfoozaat Hakeemul Ummat 23/56)

Veils to certitude

Shaikh Ibraheem bin Adham (Allah have mercy on him) said,

There are three veils covering our hearts. Certitude (Yaqeen) does not develop until they are removed. They are,

1. Being happy with what we have.

2. Being sad for that which we do not have

3. Being happy when we are praised

(The reason is that) being happy with what we have is due to greed ( a blameworthy-trait) . Being sad for what we do not have is because of anger. Anger (is also a blame worthy trait that) results in punishment (from Allah). Whereas, being happy when we are praised is due to sense of high self regard (ujub). This ujub destroys the good actions.

Ahya al Uloom bab faqr o zuhd via

Advice: when in Makkah

Shaykh Khalid Kurdi (Allah have mercy on him) said that in the blessed city of Madinah he requested a Yemeni Shaykh for dua and advice prior to departing for Makkah mukarramah.

The Yemeni Shaykh made dua for him and instructed,

‘Do not waste time there.

Use it effectively in tawaf, supererogatory salah, recitation of Holy Quran, remembrance of Allah (dhikr) or performing your missed (qaza) salah.

Moreover, under all circumstances avoid all (even in your thoughts), criticism of, and argumentation with, anyone in the Holy precinct of Makkah.

Be busy with your own work. ‘

Khutbat e Mashaheer , volume 2, p 77

Hardening of Heart

A spiritual aspirant wrote,

On the death of (my) child his mother is (extremely) disturbed. She cries repeatedly on simple matters and expresses sorrow. Compared to her despair my grief is nothing. Moreover, on hearing from people about losing a child I feel minimal sorrow in my heart. Because of this I fear that my heart has hardened (قساوت القلب) and I have no attachment with my children.

Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi (Allah have mercy on him) replied,

‘Having attachment (to children) in itself is not a requirement. Therefore, its deficiency or absence should not be worrisome. Attachment is required to fulfill their rights. There should not be any deficiency in this.

Hardening of heart entails being brave on committing sinful.

Lack of attachment and feelings is not hardening of heart. It is something that is, also, to an extent coveted.

Tarbiyet us Salik, volume 3, p174-5

Treatment for hurtful words

A spiritual aspirant wrote,

For a long duration I am afflicted with this spiritual disease of being harsh when speaking the truth explicitly. People are hurt by it, sometimes forever and on other occasions momentarily.

After (this happens) I feel excessively distressed for hurting the feelings of an individual. Sometimes I apologize but still I feel sorry. I also make dua often after salah. Asking Allah for facilitation in controlling my speech, so that I do not indulge in useless talk.

I wanted to write about this illness to you for a long time, however, yesterday you spoke about the Prophet’s (Allah bless him and grant him peace) saying من سلم المسلمون. It reminded me of this. I humbly request you to, please, prescribe a treatment for it.

Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi (Allah have mercy on him) replied,

‘For few days restrict yourself from advising and instructing (nasiha) others.

Remember this and with determination act on it.

Implementing this for some days will, InshaAllah, create a balance.

However, if there is an occasion where you consider that instruction is mandatory (wajib) then ask another individual to say it. In this way a mandatory duty will not be abandoned. ‘

Tarbiyet us Salik, volume 2, chapter 3, p 168

Teaching Etiquettes

After a prayers, Grand-Mufti of Pakistan Mufti Mohammed Rafi’ Usmani (Allah preserve & protect him) was walking towards a door of the Masjid to exit when someone approached him, shook hands with him and began talking to him about something. During this time a second person tried to approach him and shake his hands. Respected Mufti sternly pointed with his hands to him to stay away.

He was teaching him the basic etiquette that when two people are engaged in a conversation then a third should not interfere without permission.

Instead of a verbal lesson, this practical lesson will probably prove to be much more effective.

Ramadan 1439, malfuzaat collated by Br Kaiser Nizamani

The soul of worship

Summary of Ramadan 1439 Last 10 days Discourses:

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammed Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve & protect him) said,

Whatever actions we perform, such as prayers, fasting, Hajj, Zakah etc. are like a body. However there is a soul behind these actions without which these actions become useless in the Hereafter. The soul of all actions depends on three things:

1) Eeman, i.e. belief. This means that a person must be a Muslim for any action to be acceptable in the Court of Allah. Alhamdulillah Allah has given us Eeman. We must continue to ask Allah to protect and strengthen this Eeman.

Shaikh mentioned the following duas taught by the Prophet (Allah’s blessings and peace be upon him) related to this:

a) اللهم إني أسألك إيمانا يباشر قلبي

“O Allah! I ask you for Eeman which settles deep in my heart.”

b) اللهم اني أسالك إيماناً لا يرتد

“O Allah! I beg you for the Eeman which will not be shaken.”

c) اللهم اني أسالك إيماناً دائما

“O Allah! I beg you for perpetual Eeman.”

2) Ikhlas, i.e. sincerity. Normally Satan does not openly incite us to do an action just to show to others, as it is unlikely for a normal practicing Muslim to fall into this trap. However Satan attacks a person’s Ikhlas by telling him “What would people say if you don’t do this action”. As a result, the person may do some action to avoid being criticized by people, hence tainting the Ikhlas.

Shaikh mentioned that the reward of a single action can be increased if multiple intentions are made for it. For example, the following intentions can be made for eating or drinking:

a) I will make Shukr (gratitude) of Allah after eating/drinking.

b) I will be following the Sunnah of  the Prophet (Allah’s blessings and peace be upon him), as he would eat food when it was brought in front of him.

c) I will use the energy I get from this food in fulfilling the commandments of Allah.

Similarly several intentions can be combined in many daily actions. Since it is normally difficult to remember to make all these intentions each time before doing each action, an easy way of achieving this is to make all these intentions at the beginning of the day. Inshallah all these intentions will be rewarded in this way as well.

Beyond this, Shaikh explained that sometimes a person’s intention can be better than his action. He quoted a Hadith the gist of which is:
“A person will be brought on the Day of Judgment and angels will present his book of deeds. One by one all his good deeds will be rejected as they were not done for the sake of Allah. After all the deeds will be rejected, Allah will command the angels to write so and so good deeds in his record. The angels will remark that he had not performed those good deeds. At this Allah will say that he had made an intention to do them.”

Further, Shaikh explained the following Hadith regarding the benefits of good intentions and the dangers of bad intentions:

“The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: ‘The likeness of this nation is that of four people: A man to whom Allah gives wealth and knowledge, so he acts according to his knowledge with regard to his wealth, spending it as it should be spent; a man to whom Allah gives knowledge, but he does not give him wealth, so he says: “If I had been given (wealth) like this one, I would have done what (the first man) did.” The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: ‘They will be equal in reward. And a man to whom Allah gives wealth but does not give knowledge, so he squanders his wealth and spends it in inappropriate ways; and a man to whom Allah gives neither knowledge nor wealth, and he says: “If I had (wealth) like this one, I would do what (the third man) did.” The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: ‘They are equal in their burden (of sin).’”

3) Sidq, which is a comprehensive word which includes the meanings that the actions must be in accordance with Sunnah. Shaikh gave examples that Wudu done with wastage of water would not have complete Sidq as wasting water during Wudu is prohibited even if Wudu is done at a flowing river.

Ramadan 1439, malfuzaat collated by Br KaiserNizamani

Purpose of Sharia, tariqat & haqiqa

Shaikh Saad ud Deen Khairabadi (Allah have mercy on him) said,

My dear, do you know what is the purpose of Islamic rulings (Sharia), Spiritual path (tariqat) and Divine reality (haqiqa)?

(Listen) The purpose of them is that an individual becomes truthful in speech, morally upright, relatively harmless, wise, good mannered and a gnostic (arif).

Mujama as Sulook, volume 1, page 232