Category Archives: T. Tarbiyet

Contains principle and guidelines on training and disciplining of the morals (ikhlaq) of murid

Being pleased with the decree of Allah!

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مرضی مولا از ہمہ اولی

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It is reported that it was the habit of Dadi sahiba that whenever something happened against her desire she used to repeatedly say loudly,

‘I am pleased with the decree of my Lord!’

She would continue to say this again and again for a while.

To the surprised audience she explained that I am trying to make myself listen this so that my mind and heart believes in it firmly.

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Deen is not Difficult at all!

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mawlana Muhammad Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve him and allow us to benefit from him abundantly. Ameen!) said:

“Once I was visiting Shaykh Baba Najam Ahsan, khalifa majaz-e-sohbat of Hakim al-Umma (Allah have mercy on them). He was an extra-ordinary personality. Gifted with khashaf-o-karamat (unveiling of secrets and super natural acts). A young man came for an errand. He was like other youths of his age, having no religious desires & inclination. As he completed his work and was about to leave, Baba sahib addressed him and said;

“Son! people think that following deen in very difficult in this day and age.

They are wrong. It is not difficult at all.

Only thing you have to do is to repent for your mistakes daily at night time. That is it!”

I was amazed!
But these ahl-ul Allah are in a quest to bring people to Allah any how and by whatever means. It is impossible that if one develops this habit of repentance daily that he does not develop a relationship with Allah.”

Waaz 3th July 05, Darul Uloom, Karachi

Counting the blessings!

Hadhrat Mawlana Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usmani (may Allah preserve him) said,

“Once my Shaykh Hadhrat Dr. Abdul Hayy ‘Arifi (may Allah have mercy on him) was invited to a dinner. Few of his disciples, including me were accompanying him. After the sumptuous meal Hadhrat addressed us regarding the excessive thankfulness due on each and every blessing.

Hadhrat enumerated that in this single episode how many blessings were incorporated. First blessing was the delicious food itself. Second, the respectful manner in which the host served it to us. Third, our feeling of hunger which made it possible for us to consume it. Fourth, our good general health that allowed us to eat indiscriminately. If we had an aliment we would have to restrict ourselves to specific foods only. Fifth, our being free from overwhelming and disturbing thoughts. If a close family member had been sick it would have been impossible to enjoy the delicious meal. Sixth, the company of friends and pious individuals we had. Rude and irreligious fellows would had made the whole event a miserable experience. So on and so forth the list of blessings will continue. We are aware that it is essential to give thanks for each and every of these blessings. True and real thanks will gush out from the depths of the heart with realization of these things.

Hadhrat Mufti sahib added, the ability to appreciate the blessings in such manner is due to a very close and intimate relationship with Allah (taluq ma’Allah), that is the goal of Tasawwuf.

These are gems to take from Shaykh’s company (suhba). “

Friday 27th July 2007, Masjid Darul Uloom, Karachi. After ‘asr majlis

The use of nur of good deeds!

Arif-billah Dr. Abdul Hayy ‘Arifi (Allah have mercy on him) said,

It is not sufficient enough a goal to become a zakir (one who does excessive remembrance of Allah) and shagil (one who does spiritual exercises) only.

You acquired the nur by praying pre-dawn prayers (tahajjud) and doing remembrance of Allah. This is very good.

However, dear brother, is there a potential use of this nur?

The (nur of) remembrance of Allah makes the darkness go away, the obscurities fade, the rights and obligations become clear in front of you, the filthy and pure things become evident clearly in their appropriate places.

Now, why do you pick up the filth?

If by mistake you did this then remember Allah, throw it away and wash your hands.

(As a example:) Being a human you got angry. Now why do keep a grudge and intention of revenge? Throw away this filth and repent. The use of remembrance of Allah is to be shown here.

Sawanih wa ta’limat e Hazrat ‘Arifi, page 530

Islahi majalis

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Sayyidi wa sanadi Mawlana Mohammad Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve him) has repeatedly told us,

‘It must be remembered that these gatherings are not lectures and preaching sessions. The discussion here is to improve our spiritual condition. The first and foremost addressee is my own self.

Please, be attentive of this fact and have this intention of improving yourself. Otherwise it is a waste of time, energy and resources.’

Objective of attending the majalis

Shaykh Mansur Ali Khan (Allah preserve him) said,

‘Every week we gather here to listen to religious discussion. It is imperative that we have a clear objective regarding these gatherings.

These are not lectures of formal religious education. These are training sessions (tarbiyeti) for the spiritual aspirants (salikeen).

Their objectives are, to

1. Create and nurture love of Allah and His beloved Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) in our hearts.

2. Develop the habit of turning (ruju’) to Allah in all circumstances via supplication (dua).

3. Emulating the Sunna method of doing things in every aspect of life.

4. Becoming cognizant of here-after and accountability for one’s deeds.

It is essential to have these goals in mind. It makes the journey easier by keeping you on the track and retuning to it if you slip.’

Sunday majlis, Jeddah, 3rd July 2010

Daily Workout

Sayyidi wa sanadi Shaykh Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve him)  advised a murid;

“Do physical exercise/workout daily.

Perform it, irrespective of the kind it may be or for how long you do it. 

This is an obligation on you for (maintaining the physical well being of) your body.”

Malfoozat; Kebriyet e Ahmer,by Dr Syed Abdul Qadir Ahmer sahib db, page 11, # 47

Ashrafiya precisian: The daily wird

Points to bear in mind for the daily routine (wird) of a novice seeker.

Go slow and easy initially.
Do not exhaust yourself by fixing a routine that is beyond your limits. (Inform the Shaykh upfront of your limitations).
Make lot of prayers (dua) for ease, guidance and acceptance from Allah in this regards.

Also, it must be remembered that all these things are supererogatory (nafil). They provide assistance in fulfilling the essential actions (wajibat) to gain Allah’s pleasure. The most important of which is to abstain from all that is impermissible (sins).

Also, your duties as a sonْ/daughter, brother/sister, spouse, parent, employee at work, or student in college have priority over all these nafil activities. This means that when there is a clash between these two kind of activities precedence in given to the wajib. If there is no clash then it is highly recommended to do them diligently.

Min ifadat e murshidi

Tip to avoid a burnout!

Hakim al-Umma Mawlana Ashraf ‘Ali Thanawi (Allah have mercy on him) said,

‘My respected teacher Mawlana Yaqub Nanotawi (Allah have mercy on him) used to advice the seekers that they should end their routine activities (wird, tilawat, tasbihat, readings, etc.)  before they loose complete interest  in them. Leaving a desire to still do more. If they do not do this they will have a burnout (experience of long-term exhaustion and diminished interest) eventually.

Allah save us all form this.

To make it easier to understand he gave the example of yo-yo (Urdu:chakai/chukdor). The tip for successful play is to pull the string before it unwinds completely. If it were to unwind totally the yo-yo spool will never return and just dangle there aimlessly.

Similar is the tip for a salik (and the instructing murshid) to keep the flame of interest and desire burning.

Undertaking too much, too quickly with drastic lifestyle changes over a short period of time  is usually spiritually unhealthy.

The natural spiritual growth is slow, continuous and imperceptible process. Just like the physical development. Years and decades are required to reach and manifest the signs of spiritual puberty and maturity.

A perfect murshid (Shaykh-e-kamil) is needed for this reason.

(Paraphrased. Malfuz reported in Majalis e Hakim al-Ummat ra, and repeated many times by sayyidi wa sanadi wa murshidi Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve him) in his discourses.)

The most important nasiha!

Giving instructions to a newly appointed mujaz sayyidi wa sanadi Shaykh Mufti Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve him) said,

The first and most essential thing is,

1. Never to be negligent of one’s own islah.’

Hidayet baraay e mujazeen

This reality has to be realized that islah never ends.

It is an ongoing process.

Concern about criticism: Arrogance

A murid complained that when people talk negatively about you it hurts me and my heart aches.

Hakim al Umma Mawlana Shah Ashraf Ali Thanawi (Allah have mercy on him) replied;

‘There are a multitude of people who talk badly about Allah, His messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and the  scholars (mujtahideen). Have you done any thing to stop that?

If not, then why does it hurt you when poor Ashraf Ali is censured.  And you feel concerned about stopping this?

There is nothing in this attitude except kibir (arrogance).

It annoys you when your seniors are censured. You feel humiliated at this. This is a hidden deception of nafs (ego/lower self).

Suppose, even if it is not kibir (arrogance). Then I ask, why did you feel concerned about anyone  saying any thing good or bad (regarding my seniors).

What harm did it cause to you?

If you had focused on the goal (of tareeq, i.e. seeking perpetual pleasure of Allah SWT) you could not have time to waste on these petty issues.

Hakeemul Ummat ra kay hayret-angez waqiyat, page 81

I’m asleep!

Hakim al-Umma Mawlana Ashraf Ali Thanawi (Allah have mercy on him) used to repeatedly tell the salikeen that if a person gets the idea that he has acquired a praiseworthy trait or state and gotten rid of a blame-worthy one then he should be extremely suspicious of this.

He gave this example to make it easy to understand.

That is, if a person is aware that he is sleeping then his sleep is defective. It is not a  genuine sleep. A sleeping person is completely unaware of his sleep.

Similar is the case of a salik.

He should always rely completely on his Shaykh’s instructions and be suspicious of all his activities considering himself to a novice just initiated.

Min ifadat sayyidi wa sanadi Hazrat murshidi db

Experiential knowledge

Like previous masters of the path Hakim al-Umma Mawlana Ashraf Ali Thanawi (may Allah have mercy on him) made it explicitly clear that Tasawwuf is a practical thing which has to be experienced personally.

It is, however, important to clear a misconception which especially plagues those who stress on reading the advanced text of Tasawwuf dealings with higher spiritual realities of experiences and unveilings without proper guidance of a Shaykh.

We mistakenly set an imaginary expected standard for this experiential knowledge.

For example, in love of Allah and His Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) we select  Sheikh Abdul Qadir Jilani or Khawajah Moinuddin Chishti ra’s state of love.  And when this not happen within our expected short time frame, we feel at loss.

This is inappropriate. This is the path (tareeq) of slave hood (abdiyat). Our under-par desires,  immature wishes and unrealistic standards have no place in this path. They have to be annihilated (fana).

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mawlana Mohammad Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve him)  repeatedly tells us that after implementing the requirements of Shariah correctly (with the additional aid of the Shaykh’s instruction) experiential knowledge will be gained by each and every salik. It will develop accordingly to our aptitude and effort. Moreover, with persistence in these spiritual works of body and heart it will, inshaAllah, increase both in quantity and quality over time and become ingrained in us.

mun ifadat e sayyidi wa sanadi Hazrat murshidi db

The reason for not benefiting in tariq!

Shahykh Shah Wasiullah (Allah have mercy on him) said,

‘Are you aware of the reason that why some of the people who come here (for islah &ta’aluq maAllah) do not benefit?

The reason is that this path (tariq) essentially requires propriety (adab) and reverence (aqidat).

People consider this path to be  similar to the conditions in secular schools where a tutor teaches and the pupil learn irrespective of having any reverence  for him.  The student learns even if he does not show any respect to the teacher.

They consider that the teaching in Tasawwuf is also like this and there is no need of reverence and propriety towards the Shaykh.

Shaykh’s instructions are considered to be beneficial and are memorized, however, there is no reverence for the Shaykh in their heart. It is for this reason that they do not benefit.

It is as though Tasawwuf is now considered to  be another branch of  science and arts. In reality, it is a practical and  experiential entity.

Hakim al-Umma Mawlana Ashraf Ali Thanawi (Allah have mercy on him) told us multiple times that if someone questioned Shaykh Haji Imdadullah mohajir Makki (Allah have mercy on him) regarding an issue (mas’ala) of Tasawwuf. He used to admonish the inquirer and tell him that this is not a school (maderasa) whenever (a need is felt and) I find it appropriate  I will explain it.’

Taharet e qalb, Nifaq ka bayan, page 83